Baby names.
Hi all. This is alittle bit of a tricky question but I want some advice.
I had a best friend from high school (about 8 years of friendship) when I moved out of my home town we kinda slowed down our contact with each other. We last saw each other was probably July 2023. We’d occasionally text each other just checking in but we never went into details about our lives. Fast forward to 2025. I got pregnant with my second baby and was convinced it was a boy. So I had a few boys names in mind but no girl names. However it turns out I was having another girl. However we struggled to find a double barrel name that went with our first girl. It was about two weeks before her birth that we finally settled on a name. And then Ofcourse announced her to the world. When I was 5 days postpartum I noticed that she blocked me on everything. I tried getting in touch with her multiple times to ask what was wrong. So fast forward to now I managed to get in touch with her with her number. She message back after a week and she explained why she removed me. Apparently I took the name that she wanted for when she wanted children. She was quite adamant that she told me that she was trying for a baby with her ex and that she told me that was her name that she wanted.
I never knew this. She never claimed that she wanted that name and she never told me she was trying for a baby. The last time we properly spoke was in 2023. I never knew she had a boyfriend and apparently she moved in with him and was trying for a baby. I’m just confused - I have no idea what to do? I’m 100% she never told me otherwise I never would have used that name. I’ve apologised profusely but she’s having a hard time talking to me. What should I do? Shall I leave her alone and let her reach out or should I give up and not try and fix the problem?
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Leave it and move on with your life. This person sounds pathetic 🫠
Just offering a different perspective - It might be bigger than just a name - she may be having trouble conceiving so this might be a bit of a bigger thing for her, she might just be in a really bad headspace right now, either which way it sounds like she’s struggling / not handling things well/ lashing out - not much you can do other than leave her be and let her guide next steps, maybe she’ll open up but maybe she won’t, you haven’t done anything wrong, you need to just enjoy this special time in your life but recognise she might’ve absent for it and reconnect in time
Again feel free to ignore but i jus had to comment in case she’s just mentally going through a really tough time/ acting irrationally and not herself at the minute
She is absolutely ridiculous, I would say just leave her to it. She’s probably jealous of you.
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