I have a 17th month daughter and I’m 35 weeks pregnant. I never asked ANYONE for help an I ask my bd can he watch our daughter while I can get some rest and he told me yes and I shouldn’t have believed him bc he stayed on the game while I’m constantly in pain and our daughter wants attention 24/7 on top of not sleeping at night and he always up talking to his homies
When I mentioned my feelings he don’t even care at all he gon tell me “go back to work” like dude I quit at 33 weeks bc I was exhausted and mentally not here and he just don’t see that and then he throws in my face I don’t financially take care of our daughter….i do the best I can I’m always being her food and milk and hair products that she needs an he thinks since he makes more and he have bought her more shii then me that I’m a shit mother without him and he rubs it in and just don’t care
Then earlier today he literally was gonna go to the liquor store and say fuk our family day that WE both planned for our daughter and when I mention we already got plans his whole mood changed. Then we got to the place and he just kept being judgmental the whole time and we ending up leaving the he gon tell me he’s done with our family days bc there’s nothing for her to do but literally there was a lot of shii for her to do at the place he just didn’t wanna be be there
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Not to be a A$$ but having two kids for just a bf is wild (if you’re not married ) . Also did help with the first child and then change during this pregnancy or both pregnancies are similar ? Tell him to watch the daughter you guys share and lock the door to get sleep . It’s rude for him to expect you to work while pregnant but did you guys have a convo prior to you quitting ?

Put your foot down now and tell him your expectations before your second child arrives ! It would suck being the sole parent , sleep deprived and etc w two kids and no help even from your own partner . If disrespect and non consideration continues than go from there .

Can you get help from family or friends? Start having them around more to support you if you can. There's no shame in you realizing he is not the support that you need or was hoping for, he's going to have to see that on his own. He needs to witness what real support and help looks like. Have a trusted friend or family come sit with the baby for a few hours, schedule different people on different days so you can get that time you are needing