Mentally exhausted (rant)

I have a 17th month daughter and I’m 35 weeks pregnant. I never asked ANYONE for help an I ask my bd can he watch our daughter while I can get some rest and he told me yes and I shouldn’t have believed him bc he stayed on the game while I’m constantly in pain and our daughter wants attention 24/7 on top of not sleeping at night and he always up talking to his homies

When I mentioned my feelings he don’t even care at all he gon tell me “go back to work” like dude I quit at 33 weeks bc I was exhausted and mentally not here and he just don’t see that and then he throws in my face I don’t financially take care of our daughter….i do the best I can I’m always being her food and milk and hair products that she needs an he thinks since he makes more and he have bought her more shii then me that I’m a shit mother without him and he rubs it in and just don’t care

Then earlier today he literally was gonna go to the liquor store and say fuk our family day that WE both planned for our daughter and when I mention we already got plans his whole mood changed. Then we got to the place and he just kept being judgmental the whole time and we ending up leaving the he gon tell me he’s done with our family days bc there’s nothing for her to do but literally there was a lot of shii for her to do at the place he just didn’t wanna be be there

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Not to be a A$$ but having two kids for just a bf is wild (if you’re not married ) . Also did help with the first child and then change during this pregnancy or both pregnancies are similar ? Tell him to watch the daughter you guys share and lock the door to get sleep . It’s rude for him to expect you to work while pregnant but did you guys have a convo prior to you quitting ?

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Put your foot down now and tell him your expectations before your second child arrives ! It would suck being the sole parent , sleep deprived and etc w two kids and no help even from your own partner . If disrespect and non consideration continues than go from there .

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Can you get help from family or friends? Start having them around more to support you if you can. There's no shame in you realizing he is not the support that you need or was hoping for, he's going to have to see that on his own. He needs to witness what real support and help looks like. Have a trusted friend or family come sit with the baby for a few hours, schedule different people on different days so you can get that time you are needing

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My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

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Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

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My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

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Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

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