Missed miscarriage

Hey girls, just wanted top post for anyone going through this.. today I had a D&C for my poor baby at 10weeks 2 days. Long story short I got pregnant 2months after having a baby and I managed to carry the baby to 10weeks and at my scan the baby had no heart beat (did have an early dating scan at 9weeks and the heart was beating away) so this should have been my 12week scan :( it was heartbreaking but the surgery was the best option for me. Everyone at the hospital was amazing and it all went smoothly, basically I just wanted to reassure anyone who may be facing this for the first time and say as emotional as it is don't be frightened. I've never been put to sleep before and I was awake before I knew it no pain and only slight bleeding. I was given a beautiful memory box before I left the hospital. I did opt for pathology results but was advised that my body just wasn't ready after just having a baby. Don't blame yourself just treasure the memory. If anyone needs any advise please message as I wish I did to other girls who have been through this. It feels very lonely. Xx

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So sorry you had to go through this but glad the surgery went okay! Big hug and this baby will still always be a part of your story 💖

So sorry you had to go through this.

I love the did the memory block. I wish that was an option for me. So sorry for ur loss. Be sure to get some extra good cuddles with ur precious baby.

Sending so much love and comforting energy to you during this time. I can empathize with how you’re feeling. I lost a baby boy at 11 weeks 5 days, he would have been 6yrs old yesterday. I had my rainbow baby girl last July, but not a day goes by that I don’t think about him. It’s so special the hospital gave you a memory box. They didn’t offer those where/when I got my D&C. At that time I also had a 2yr old, so I know how challenging it can be to handle and balance things after a loss while chasing around another little one. Hoping all the best for you and your family as you navigate life going forward. Blessings to you ❤️

I'm sorry your going through this. I have been through it twice. With this first (10weeks)I went for the surgery with my second(8weeks) I went for the tablet (not sure what that's called). Message if you ever want to talk about it, your not alone x

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Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Small head reported following 20 week scan

Has anyone else had it flagged that their baby is in the bottom 5th percentile for head size?

They said everything was fine whilst we were in the scan and then I got a phone call the next day saying that it’s on the small side and we’re being referred to a paediatric specialist at St George’s. Has anyone else had this and how did things go??

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago

Exercise 6 weeks after c section

What movement did people start to introduce? I won’t do anything too vigorous until I’ve seen the pelvic physio as I don’t want to compromise anything that may have been extremely weakened through pregnancy! But just wondering what types of classes/movement people started off with?

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Anyone else experiencing this?

Gave birth (vagina) 5 days ago and yesterday morning and this morning getting lot of pain in my right bottom side and lower back