Hi all! So me and my partner's 1 year is coming up in early May and I do like to plan ahead so I'm already thinking about it. But I am stumped on what to do or get him. Especially because we just had Christmas and Valentines day so I've already done a lot of gifts lol. But also, we're going to be at the beach with my family on the day of. I already bought our plane tickets just today and he's going to help out and send me some money for the tickets, but then I was like or should I just cover his ticket and call that an anniversary present? Or is that dumb? Or should I pay for all of his drinks and food and stuff on the trip as a present? Or is that dumb? Or should I just get him an actual physical gift to present on the day of?? I need advice! I don't want to take him out to dinner cause that's his job lol.
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Plan something, an experience, for the two of you for a different time.

For one of our anniversaries, I booked a sports car on Turo for the day and drove to Napa. It was AMAZING. My husband absolutely loved the gift and we had so much fun. It was cheaper than flying somewhere but better than going to a nice restaurant that no one seems to remember about years later:)

I didn't rent his favorite car! It was a sports car that seemed reasonably priced and turns out once he hit the gas peddle on that convertible, he didn't even mind! Thinking outside the box is so fun đ

All of the above. Pay for his plane ticket, treats and drinks on the trip and then get him one gift that you know he will like or has mentioned he wanted.
I think doing that sets the tone of a relationship if it's a good man he will appreciate it and then will most likely try even harder to spoil you. It also shows that not only can you take care of yourself and buy yourself spoils but spoil him as well and that you dont need him but show him that you want him and that makes men almost want to compete with you. And prove that they can take better care of you. At least in my experience with men. They will then get you gifts just because or they were thinking of you and thought you'd like it or it reminded them of you. If it's a not so good man you will get nothing in return and he will just expect this from you forever and never want to support or spoil you and will mooch off you the rest of your lives
This is just based off my experiences with men idk him like you do so maybe asses the situation .

I'm confused.
You expect him to take you to dinner, to celebrate you.
And in exchange... you want to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on him?
Doesn't make sense to me

You shouldnât be covering all those costs especially if his just taking you out to dinner.

My love language is quality time. I donât feel spending lots of money on someone is a good gift. I like the sports car idea. Think of an experience where you can spend time together. Itâs the beach so rent jet skis or go parasailing. I think about an experience rather than just covering the cost of things as that isnât a present (to me).