Quick question to corporate “working from office” moms?

Since when is it okay to request work from home at workplace? I’m currently entering 20 weeks and planning on requesting work from home. I know people usually start work from home from the 7th month but I’m planning on requesting since 5th month. Is that okay and acceptable in the corporate world?

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I'm at 8.5 weeks and considering it based on nausea. Your body and maybe your doctor are who you should consult. If you have a legit need of an accommodation your work should be supportive.

What are you having for symptoms?

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I started working at home from 19weeks because I had bad dizziness and nausea eventually my PGP got so bad as well, being at home was just much more comfortable.

Definitely ask the question !

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Have you formally told work that you're expecting? If so, then, by law, they have to do a "new/expectant mum" risk assessment with you.
The risk assessment is the best opportunity to be honest and make sure you tell them/they document the things that you're really struggling with (whether it's nausea, exhaustion etc). You should also be agreeing suitable controls that will help reduce any risks to you (like working from home) and making sure it's documented too.
You and your boss should also be reviewing the risk assessment abd any arrangements throughout your pregnancy (and for a time afterwards) to make sure its all still relevant and there's nothing new you need to make them aware of 😊

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I requested it at 6 weeks, I was throwing up all day everyday. They actually only wanted a doctor's note and haven't followed up about symptoms to make me justify that I still need it thankfully.

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Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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