Do I test my partners loyalty or leave?

If you feel the need to do this, the relationship is already fucked. There’s no point.

Well if he doesn't take the bait it doesn't necessarily mean he's not cheating.

Seeing what he’s already done, I would think you know what he’s capable of. I don’t test people, I pay attention and follow what my intuition tells me.

100% agree the relationship is fucked but the thought of splitting our family up kills me so a part of me does want clarity just so I know my gut feeling maybe is right or I could be completely wrong however on the other hand I just feel empty so what is the point😏

If you feel worthless just leave

from what he’s exhibiting, i’d say i’m 99% sure he’s up to something. but sometimes it takes more than just a suspicion for someone to leave, if you think having set in stone proof that he’s up to something will help you make that decision i say do it.

Leave. But personally, might be toxic but I would want the proof too. So I would go through his phone. Especially if you are going to leave either way.

Test him only if you need more evidence, otherwise, why do you want to do this to yourself?

Girl no one has time for that. Protect your energy and find someone else who will love and cherish you and never give you any doubt of that love.