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How do i start feeling connected

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In what ways? To yourself? Baby? Your partner?

To your baby? Not every mom feels an immediate connection. I had a long tough labor and delivery that ended in a C-section plus our baby was in the NICU for 6 days. I feel like this got us off to a weird start and I felt very disconnected to him. I was basically going through the motions and just in survival mode for the first couple weeks at least. Do you have people around you for support?

Agree with connection is not an instant or automatic process.

When my son was born, I did not feel the “whirlwind of emotions” such as crying, joy, etc. Honestly, I was terrified and in shock.
Terrified mostly because I thought my heart was going to stop after the pushing. Then I had a second-degree tear which needed stitches. So I couldn’t even hold my boy for longer than 15 minutes. Partner had to do an hour of skin to skin with our boy while I had my stitches.
Breastfeeding took a while to establish and stabilise. So many things got in the way of our connection. It is a slow process. But the main thing is support - reach out to people you trust.

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Phone Friends 📱 🧡

I’m looking to connect with some like-minded people who don’t mind talking on the phone while we tackle our to-do lists. I have ADHD, and I find it really helpful to have someone to “body double” with—just chatting while we work helps me stay focused and actually get things done.

If you’re someone who likes productive phone calls, working alongside a friend (even virtually), or just wants a new accountability buddy, I’d love to connect! 💛

Loneliness

I didn’t know whether to write this or not, as I really don’t even know what to do at this point. I’ve been really struggling with the constant feeling of loneliness and just feeling like the whole world is just going past and I’m not even apart of it anymore.

I have friends that I have lost since becoming a mum or even major shifts in friendships. I’ve got 1 mum friend who is amazing and I’m so thankful for her.

However, I can’t help but feel this constant loneliness. I just feel like no one gets it and no one can see it. I try and open up. But no one seems to understand.

I find it really hard to make friends I have done all my life. But now I’m finding it especially hard. I have joined in with baby groups in the local area and yet everyone is already friends or in the clicks. I find when I start conversations it’s shut down very quickly. I just honestly can’t stand it.

Everything is just building up on top of me and it’s really starting to affect my mental health.
I honestly don’t know what to do

Sex problem

Been seeing someone 3 months. We have sex once a week/couple weeks, haven’t been having that much sex. Once every week/couple weeks. And last few rimes hes not been able to get it up and when he does he cums in like 5-10 seconds. I dont know im quite a sexual person. Just not sure if its kind of turned off me abit feel bad saying that

Am I weird?

I like the thought of my partner cheating/being intimate with another women. I wouldn’t say it’s a fetish but it’s enough for me to get off on it if I wanted to.

Do I test my partners loyalty or leave?

I don’t trust my partner and I think he maybe cheating. I’ve had my suspicions also things has happened in the past (messaging girls, been on dating sites, only fans etc) anyway I’ve tried going on his phone but his password has changed, I’ve tried having a conversation with him but he accuses me🤯 I’m tired of all this and being made to feel worthless but I also need some clarity…

My question is would I be wrong to ask someone to message my partner and test his loyalty or just up and leave?🤔

Feel so lost

Why is it so hard to make friends and I feel so lost not being able to have someone to talk to.