Is this abnormal?

walked to the park with my 20 month old and he didnt wanna leave - and cried the whole walk back and started sounding like a panic attack screaming and crying trying to get down and then would push my hand away run away from me and when we got home still crying and would reach for me then say no -when id reach for him he pushed my hands back and said no. Honestly I felt like the people around thought I was abusing him or something, and it felt like he doesn’t want to be with me. Be honestly does this sound like an insecure attachment?

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Nope i think this is normal or atleast i hope so bc my son does this too! He hates leaving the park

Sounds exactly like my 20 month old daughter. So I guess it’s normal lol 🤣 makes me feel better to hear I’m not alone!

It is very much normal behavior for a 20 month old, mine does the same when he doesn’t get his way. Help regulate his emotions but keep yours in check as well if you’re stressed he will sense that keep your cool. You got this momma and I promise anyone with a kid understands exactly what you’re going through and if they were looking at you that way so what screw them do they want to help? No then mind ya business that’s what I say

My daughter is 20 months old too and she does the same thing when we go to the park or to my mom house 🫣 they don’t control the emotions pretty well

Omg thank god, thanks everyone. I literally am scared to go back to the park lol

My 20 month old son does the same exact things when going outside at home then coming back in. Usually takes 5-10 minutes for him to calm down, which feels like a damn eternity!!!

This is a tantrum. It's totally normal and actually they'll most likely continue to get more intense for like a year or more from here. I second the advice to learn to manage your own emotions when this happens. They can sense your stress and it will amp them up more if they do. But you can handle this! All toddlers everywhere in the world have tantrums. It's a phase and won't last forever.

Glad we're not the only ones 🫠 we try to just calmly hold the boundary and be with him and verbally recognize his frustration "I know you want XYZ, but ABC. I know this is frustrating, it was so fun that XYZ, well have to do it again later" etc... He can't always calm himself down, but after a bit distraction can work still for us. That, and we've noticed transition objects help prevent melt downs! Like if I'm going to go upstairs, we both hug a stuffy, then I leave it with him. Or if we can pick up a stick at the park to bring home... Etc. Idk if we're doing it right! But we're trying, solidarity

Sounds like a tantrum and tracks for his age lol, kids are something else lol

That’s normal. Mine has the same meltdown when we come back inside from playtime.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?