Life is great as older single mom of 1, baby 2 at 45?

I’m 44 with a 5 year old and life is amazing. I’ve been raising this kid alone the whole time and I’m living a dream life where I live between the US, Thailand and Spain. I own a home, have a good remote job, keep my kid with me all day.

I want to have a second child. But not desperately. I’d need to borrow some semen from the bank and while I think it’s unfortunate to not know the origin of the semen and the possibility of 100 siblings , I’m open to it. My insurance covers IUI and IVF through my next birthday.

Would you start over as mom of an infant at 45 years old?

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Hi! Nope. I am envious of those that have kids in college at my age- I'm 44. I don't expect you to feel like I do but I have had to postpone my career a lot too and really would love to get back to being me and not just someone's mom. Sorry if that's sounds horrible.😬

I had my son at 43yrs old it us physically harder and higher risk for miscarriage and loses. We went through a lot blessed with a boy at 43 yrs old and no regrets more patience (have a daughter graduated nurse) and he's very hyper and neurodivergent which has its challenges but he's my everything and live him so much ! If you get a nanny will help. When I worked full time and her dad was in Afghanistan.

Yes do it, you seem to be in a great place financially and emotionally. Siblings are the best, saying for your 5 year old. Good luck :)

Just gave birth at 45 💁‍♀️ I'm not opposed to doing it again either although I had a random rare complication unrelated to age after giving birth this time so it also kinda makes me nervous to try again and I do actually have my hands full even though I hate hearing strangers say that to me..

*we have a 6yo, 4yo, 2yo, and the new baby, but I am married so I'm not doing this alone. My 2 older children I raised by myself, they were just shy of 2 years apart also and their dad left when the second one was 3 months old so I can say it is possible and it's a beautiful thing to give your baby a sibling ❤️

Sure would!! I’m 43 with a 16 & 4yo, not single, but I’ve been a single mom before, comes 2nd only bc my hubs is amazing & only adds to my peace, something happens to him, I’m not even gonna risk it again. 🤷🏻‍♀️
I have a childhood friend, my age, who had her first at 40 using IVF & donor, we regularly find ourselves participating in the same groups or posts, we totally busted each other thinking about having another child, even though we joke about being the parents accused of being grandparents at HS graduation.😂
I’ve done it late 20’s & late 30’s & single in my latest 20 & early 30’s, single or not, I’d still prefer late 30’s to late 40’s to go through those first few years, I’m way more laid back, got my life together, know what I & where I’m headed, plus, I already only sleep 4-6hrs a night anyway, might as well be doing feedings than just pacing around.🤣

I'm 45 with a 3 yr old and wouldn't make it if I had an infant. My husband and I work full time and sleepless nights just don't mix. 🤦🏾‍♀️👀😭

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One and done… or not?

32ftm. I’m starting to feel so much pressure to have another baby soon as I wean from breastfeeding so they can be close in age and be friends, but I don’t feel ready for pregnancy and newborn trenches again 😭 my husband and I are all we’ve got. Having just one baby without a village has been really tough. Am I being unrealistic wanting another one soon?

I'm so not meant to be a mother.

My kids won't listen to me get into stuff when they know they aren't supposed to. Telling me no all the time. Only listen to their dad. Laughs when I correct them. I spend most of my time yelling at them because they don't want to listen to me at all. My husband said that I shouldn't have kids. And I am believing him on it. I was never meant to be a mother now. I won't hurt my kids I just want to disappear and make everyone else's lives better without me.

Baby #2??

I really want baby number 2 and am thinking of doing it via IUI as a solo mama!
Has anyone had any experiences with it 👀

Tests

So I had a blood test at the drs bc I keep getting positive tests when the blood test was negative what could this mean? Hubby says the tests are negative and said he can’t see anything. Negative image down below.

Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.