What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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Let management knew but that’s dangerous because if they let him know he know where you stay and that your alone

I would be upset too. I’d start by asking the neighbor who that was and politely have them pass along that it’s not okay. If it happens again, you could report it to management, though they may not be able to do much.

If he does it again, I would address it directly: “I’m really uncomfortable with you opening my door and taking my son without my permission. If this happens again, I will call the police.”

This is absolutely unacceptable you should 100000% percent let your landlord know.

Get a backdoor camera. Get a dog. Put mens shoes outside so he thinks u live with baby father

Very scary situation. But you did mention he’s not from here, and coming from an immigrant family myself, I could honestly see some of my uncles doing something like this innocently, without thinking anything bad of it. Maybe he genuinely thought you wouldn’t mind.
That said, you still have to be careful. If you report it and he actually did have bad intentions, that could escalate things in ways you can’t predict.
Maybe a safer approach would be to have a male friend or someone with a strong presence go over there with you. They could introduce themselves and say something like, ‘Hey, I wasn’t home earlier, but I heard you were really nice to my son. I just wanted to come by and introduce myself.’
If the man isn’t there, your friend could still ask around and say, ‘My wife mentioned an older man was playing with my child earlier, and I just wanted to know who that is and introduce myself.’
It sets a boundary without immediately escalating, but still lets him know you’re not alone

That’s scary. Who knows what would have happened if you didn’t notice he was gone so quickly. I’d do both - management and the neighbor

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