I thought I would post this here to get the best godly perspective. I’m sorry it’s long but I never do this
My mum and I are very close but as of lately it’s been so hard being pregnant around her. My husband and I relocated to another country for his job and my hope was that I would build my career there and get international experience but that didn’t work out and I ended up moving back home with pressure from my parents, that I need to get my career together for the last few months of his contract with my now 2 years old. So I was now out of work for 2 years (due to maternity leave and relocating an additional year). I moved back home but and got a job but that didn’t work out because I was now pregnant again and I couldn’t keep taking time off for my antenatal appointment so they let me go( I never told them I was 6 months pregnant).
Fast forward to now I have a supportive husband who actually gives me money monthly to motivate me but my mum has now told me that I need to get it together and not depend on him. I am 34 months pregnant and she says I should find a job now and then soon as the baby is born return to work within 3 days and she will help me look after the second child as she’s not working now. She wants me to get a data job that she sees my sister doing and she started calling all her friends to find out how I can start.
I have been dealing with self esteem issues (this was never an issue until we were an expat family and I had to deal with my mum projecting this in me) so watching my husband’s career rise and my parents making me feel like a failure and making it seem like my husband will leave me for someone who has their career together in the future ( as my mum told me men respect women who have it together). I told my mum yesterday that i would like for her to stop speaking about my career and projecting this on me as I am in a Vulnerable place and this has caused me. Anxiety and worry but she didn’t take it well and told me to get out that it’s my life I can do as I please. But she later texted me apologising but things have been pretty awkward and we are staying in my parents house for 3 days a week till we find a house as my husband has just relocated back) i also make sure I pay them but I don’t know I guess I’m posting for some godly and not so much worldly advice. Sorry if this is too long
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Before I even finished reading the whole thing, I already formed an opinion that her stance is not of the Lord’s. You ARE working. Your body is working 24/7 to do as God designed it. The Jezebel spirit tells women to be independent & not trust or rely on their spouse as a protector and provider. A spirit that has no regard for the lives of others. No one should be working in data, brand new & on purpose now. .A! is literally taking over the jobs of thousands. Everything is already shifting. I just watched our f!rst lady in a video, that there's going to be a rob0t teacher for the kids now! What this WORLD needs more than ever right now...is mothers and grandmothers and aunts doing life alongside their children and physically present with them. This pressure to send everyone awa, in order to work, is not God's design. Babies, toddlers, and school-aged children need their mothers. Period. Sometimes the anxiety we wrestle, as Christians, is the Holy Spirit not letting us have peace in opposition to Him.
It gets me so fired up to here this. At the end of the day...you obey God, not mommy. Because YOU are the voice for your children until they are adults. Your choices effect THEIR childhood. Be close to them mamas...be close to your children. Childhood happens once. Jobs will always be around (at least some of them). But your time to sit with your children, no one will ever give that back to you. Then one day the ppl that grumbled against you will be gone, too, and what good will their opinions do then? Oh please take in every second on the earth to fill your children with love. The only reason any of us wake up is to love each other and help each other.💛
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