I need opinions, am I wrong?

Me and my family live in New Jersey, my husband has another child from his previous marriage, he is 15 years old, live in Long island NY. Our son is 5 years old. We are being talking about having our own home, but financially we are not stable even thought we have the money for the deposit. Florida is a good option, even though I don’t want him to be away from his older kid, Kid that I also love as my own. He proposed to me to move to Florida with our child to my aunts house, stay there for one year while he would stay here to work and make more money and live in his car for that amount of time. He works construction in NY. Ever since he talked to me about it I have been so mad. Of course I said no instantly, what kind of thing is that. Living in my aunt house like we are homeless, and him sleeping in his car like he doesn’t have family. For me this just makes no sense. And then he tried to talk to one of my cousins about this plan, of course “Man”, he was agree with my husband and called me dumb for not wanting to do that. Please someone tell me if I am wrong? Because everytime I look at him and we talk about it I feel so mad angry.

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I feel like hes definitely not thinking these things through and im sure his kid the 15 yrl old wouldn't want to be that far from him

Did you ask him why he thinks is a good idea? Why is he ok to live like that? Whats his time line? What’s his plan?

You’re no wrong but I know confronting a man usually doesn’t work and makes him want to do it more.
Text me if you want to talk about it.

Yeah no that’s absolutely not okay at all…knowing my husband, he literally needs to see me every day and our daughter to be emotionally stable. In life, there are hard times and we should always want to be there for one another close by no matter what.

His son has 3 more years before he’s 18 and is off to college. Wait to move to Florida until then and save more in the meantime.

Tell him you want to respect his decision but you need to learn more about it and ask him clarifying questions. Chances are he hasn’t even thought things through but maybe you asking him questions will help him think things more in depth. Some men can be very impulsive. Some questions I can think of…

-Where will you shower? Use the bathroom?
-What will you eat? If outside food what if that causes health complications?
-How will you stay warm in the winter?
-How do you think this will affect our relationship?
-How will this affect your relationship with your son? And his life overall. (As a teacher I can tell you that when a parent is absent kids behavior at school changes completely)
-What will YOU tell your son when he misses you and wants to spend time with you?
- How will we contribute to aunts house?
- What will happen if aunt changes her mind?
-What if you lose your job?

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We have also spoken to his mum about it and she just says she has locks on the doors and she did it as a kid and laughs about it which just feels like shes validating what he’s doing.

Sorry for the rant just wanted to see other people opinions and views as I feel so guilty to cancel Easter for him but at the same time we don’t have the money to re buy everything he’s gone through 🫠

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