Having second baby with a shitty husband

I have two children but my first child was from my previous relationship and my second child is from my shitty husband . I crave a third child so much but I’m torn between having the 3rd with him or leaving. Also been thinking so much of what people will say that I have three children with three different dads which I don’t want for my kids. He is a good dad though but shitty husband. What do I do?

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I have 5 kids, 2 from a 9 year relationship, 2 from a 10 year relationship and 1 with my current partner, been together over 2 years now, if he’s a really shite person then u need to decide wether his shittyness is worth it, I stayed in 2 extremely abusive relationships because I don’t want my kids to be without their dad, they’re both still active fathers and still shitty people

A shitty partner is not a good dad.

Also, not to pry, but I feel like your age is a factor here. Forget what other people say, either way, you and the child are the ones who have to live it.

There is a no way a man can be a good dad and a shit Husband, because a shit Husband IS a bad father. I hope u can realize that asap. & Even if u leave ur Husband, please get some therapy because u will keep attracting the same man if u don’t change ur patterns

I relate.... has he always been a shitty husband.
I wanted a large family. I have 2 kids and have made up my mind that I will absolutely will not have anymore at this point with him. I do not want another child with my husband, he tries to be supportive in his own way but not in the ways that I need and that are important to me. I wish I had someone more attentive to my needs more interested in me and learning about me.
It's very true that you can feel alone in a marriage and that is the hardest place to be in. Sorry you are going through this.
If there is no resolving what's missing or broken in your marriage don't plan on having more kids now. If you think there is hope and a way to get there then focus on that and you can revisit the idea of more children.

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I'm kinda going to miss it just being the two of us

I'm 19 weeks and I was just thinking how it's going to be quite the change for my husband and I when the time comes (around February). We get along perfectly and I don't have any worries about us transitioning to parenthood.
It's just I'm going to miss snuggling before we sleep through the night. Going out on a whim and take no time to get ready; only putting my shoes on and heading out. Staying out late whenever or driving an hour out to try our luck at the slots. Or going to the bar for dinner and coming back home to watch anime with more brewskis.

But we did plan this and I have zero regrets. We get to start a family and that feels more fulfilling to me than partying with my husband all the time. It'll just be sometimes after my little man doesn't need me as much lol.

I don't regret anything especially with how much support we have. I'm anticipating a big change and I think it's valid I feel that way.

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I’d love some opinions please! 😅 I was seeing a guy and we recently fell out, so I told him I’d give him some space. We’re meant to have a weekend together next week, but when I asked whether it was still happening so I could arrange childcare, he responded quite bluntly and gave me an ultimatum. I didn’t engage with it and reiterated that I was giving him space.

It’s now been a week and I need to know whether next weekend is actually happening so I can sort childcare. Would you message him and ask directly, or leave it because he already knows the weekend is meant to be happening and that I need to arrange childcare?

How do you have time for anything?

Babies just turned 4 months. My OH works from home for himself mon-thurs (maybe 6 hours max a day) we have a toddler that goes to nursery tues-thurs and we get help from my MIL on Mondays. And even then, finding the time to clean/eat/wash clothes/walk dogs etc is impossible. How on earth do people do it?

I feel like I'm running on fumes and wanting to strangle my husband at the weekend for not pulling his weight.

Am I overthinking?

Yesterday evening when getting my 20 months old boy ready for bath, I noticed 2 significant bruises on his lower back towards the bottom. He's been at the nursery all day and didn't have those bruises in the morning before dropping him off.

So of course some alarms start ringing in my head. I took pictures and sent them to the nursery asking what happened and how come I wasn't informed of the incident.

Their response was that nobody saw anything, little one was absolutely fine all day, didn't cry or anything so they're unsure how the bruising occurred. He was involved in normal activities like singing reading playing in the sand etc but nothing particularly stands out.

Tbh he had some small bruises in the past that again had gone unnoticed and their responses were the same.

Now I get that children can sustain accidental injuries and don't want to assume anything bad had happened, but I can't help it, my brain inevitably thinks that.

What would you do in this situation? Would you let it go? Would you escalate it further to ofsted maybe? Or am I simply overreacting?

P.s. little one is happy at the nursery and no longer cries at drop offs or pick ups.

I feel bad for hiding my disabled child from a new family my daughter has made friends with.

My twins are 5.5 years old. Last year a little boy named Omar was in their class and formed a close relationship with my daughter. They really care about each other. I was able to set up a playdate in the summer and have another one coming up. I only took my daughter last time because my son does ruin friendships for her. His needs are too high, he whines, he's annoying to others, he often makes is have to go home earlier than we wanted to because he cannot handle the environment. The mom knows I have two kids. I made an excuse not to bring him last time because I didn't want his sister to miss out on the fun activity and I wanted to be able to enjoy the outing also. Taking him could have made that impossible. We have lost friends repeatedly because of my sons behavior, crying ect. Am I a bad mom for wanting him to stay home so his sister can have this? or should I risk it and bring my son knowing there's a chance he won't behave well and his sister may never see this friend she values again?