Looking for some advice re. Sleep

My little man (nearly 9 months old) only sleeps a total of 10-11 hours in the day. Maybe this is just him (low sleep needs?) but at times he hit 12-12.5 hours total he’s been so much happier. Atm it feels like he’s always tired, clingy and grumpy. Happy one minute then crying.

He normally wakes at 8am
1st nap at 11-11:30am (for 35 mins- 1 hour)
2nd nap at 2:30pm for 20-40 mins
3rd nap at 6pm for 20-40 mins
Bedtime at 10:15pm (he’s always been on the later side)
He feeds to sleep and it can be a long feed up to 25 mins (so asleep at 10:30 approx)

Naps are 1.5-2.5 hours daily
Night sleep is 8-8.5 hours daily

He wakes in the night every 2-3 hours. Sometimes when he sleeps longer stretches (4-5 hours) he will wake for 1-2 hours and be really difficult to get back to sleep.

He used to wake happy, singing away to himself but now every wake is him crying 😢 and his wake windows he is normally grumpier than usual. I feel like it’s because he’s tired? He has recently (last week) started taking some steps/ walking so could it be developmental? (Been sitting from 5.5 months, crawling and standing from 7 months).

Would really appreciate any advice on improving total sleep 💜

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Did you implement a nighttime routine straight away and if so did your little one start sleeping through before 8 weeks?

Keep seeing people say it’s just luck. I think it’s a little bit of luck but also a good solid routine.

Obviously lots of exceptions, poorly babies etc.

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As our babies are starting to sleep longer stretches, I wanted to ask for those breastfeeding how they deal with their milk. I find even if I am still feeding 2 or even 3 times in the night, the time in between is still longer than in the day so I often find I wake up having leaked through my breast pad, bra and top.

The most obvious thing to me would be to pump, but the nice thing about baby sleeping longer is I thought I would be able to sleep longer too! And I know if I get up to pump (having to sit upright, noise of the pump, sorting the milk after etc) that I would have trouble getting back to sleep. Not to mention it would probably wake my husband up too. Curious how others have dealt with this. Are we just accepting being leaky everywhere? 😂