I’m I not good enough??

I’m a ftm and breastfeed. At the hospital I was in TEARS, because I didn’t know if my baby was getting enough. The Dr. came in and told us if she wasn’t getting enough to give her formula. Her dad JUMPED at it before Dr. got all of the words out. That made me fell like such a failure. Fast forward!! . She’s still falling asleep while eating. I had a family emergency and had to start giving her formula a few times a week.😞 I’ve explained to dad how I feel like a failure when I’m not able to feed my baby. When I’m home she doesn’t sleep as much became on and off the boob all day. When I’m gone he gives her a bottle and she’s out for hours . I’m running on 2 hrs of sleeps. He wants to feed her and let me get rest. I love that but it hurts my feeling because IM RIGHT HER. Am I not enough.

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You're good enough! Your ability to be a mother and be loved by baby does not hinge on you breastfeeding them! I get the emotional pull but you're being affected by the hormones too so don't be hard on yourself. I started pumping because I was anxious about how much baby was getting but I was worrying too much. Switched back to ebf and now I'm trying to wean baby because I'm too tired to continue (amongst other reasons) everyone's journey is different. Maybe you could try pumping? Either way, you're enough!

i would talk to him and let him know that you are really wanting to breastfeed and not use formula. your body will make enough food, you are enough. i gave my baby a bottle in the hospital too cause i felt like a failure but that was the only bottle i’ve given and she’s doing great breastfeeding. just keep trying 💗

A bottle will knock her out hun because that’s basically what it is designed to do. It’s so much thicker than breastmilk it’s heavy on their little tummy’s so fills them up quick and for longer. I went through exactly the same. But trust me, you are doing enough. Just have plenty of skin to skin time and let baby latch on whenever she is wanting to. And that way I guarantee you are getting enough ❤️ stay positive you have got this. Your body was made for this. X

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