Am I wrong for not covering up while breastfeeding in my own house?

I am a single mom who is breastfeeding. When I’m in public, yeah I cover up because that’s my personal preference. But when I am at home alone, I am just fully top exposed. No care in the world.

Well my soon to be ex husband came waltzing in unannounced. No heads up or nothing. (No he don’t live there anymore) as soon as he walks in, he sees me topless breastfeeding our new born son. As soon as he sees, he says, “wtf is wrong with you? I don’t wanna see that shit. Cover up!” I had no idea he was coming over. Otherwise I would’ve covered up. But yet again, it’s my house. You didn’t tell me you were coming through. So if you don’t like what you see, there’s the door. Am I wrong for not covering up while breastfeeding in my own house?

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And also might i add that coming in to a person's home that you have no ties to and yelling at them when you shouldn't even be there is crazy work. You were just feeding your baby and he sounds like a lunatic fr

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Girl change the locks pls if it’s an apartment get a ring camera because that’s so unsafe

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Absolutely not he shouldn’t be showing up unannounced and it’s YOUR house. If he doesn’t want to see it he can leave!!

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The audacity

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Definitely not wrong. Sounds like you need to change your locks! Who does he think he is?!

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That is trespassing.

Why haven’t you changed the locks? Tell him to wait in the driveway like a normal divorced dad or else you’re pressing charges

You did not consent. You were violated.

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That’s like saying I can’t be naked while I take a shower in my own private bathroom wtf. 🤬 change your locks if he has a key and keep the door locked always.

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If he’s not on the lease/deed I’d post a no trespassing sign and next time he comes in unannounced call the cops. They probably won’t arrest or anything considering it’s more of a civil matter as you’re in the process of being divorced but it’ll be embarrassing for him and probably piss him off and would be good to use if you ever go to court for custody later on. He sounds like a douche

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……. *looks down and completely exposed chest*….. wut.

We already know he’s a POS so that’s irrelevant. But my response would’ve been
“Cover up? In my home that you just showed up to? Nah. You can get out or suck it up.” Not like he hasn’t seen them before. He just being a dramatic tool bag

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I do it all the time and her dad lives with us. How else are you supposed to breastfeed with a hole in your shirt so only your nipple comes out? Come on now. Yes there’s a “safe way to cover yourself up” but I bet it’s uncomfortable for our babies.

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Girl no. I live with my parents and I don’t cover up when I’m home alone even if I’m in the living room. Sometimes I’ll send my dad to the other room because it’s to hot to cover up. If it’s your house and he’s an ex whatever he should t just be showing up unannounced. Set that boundary girl.

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“Yes hello? Police? My ex husband is trespassing”

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I kicked out my soon to be ex husband and called the cops when he broke through the window and they couldn’t do anything because his license still had this address on it. Changing locks sounds expensive. I’m sorry that happened to you.

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Lmao he trying to tell me that he doesn’t need to give me a heads up when it comes to the kids. No wonder I have him saved as a clown in my phone.

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Am I wrong for not covering up while breastfeeding in my own house?

I am a single mom who is breastfeeding. When I’m in public, yeah I cover up because that’s my personal preference. But when I am at home alone, I am just fully top exposed. No care in the world.

Well my soon to be ex husband came waltzing in unannounced. No heads up or nothing. (No he don’t live there anymore) as soon as he walks in, he sees me topless breastfeeding our new born son. As soon as he sees, he says, “wtf is wrong with you? I don’t wanna see that shit. Cover up!” I had no idea he was coming over. Otherwise I would’ve covered up. But yet again, it’s my house. You didn’t tell me you were coming through. So if you don’t like what you see, there’s the door. Am I wrong for not covering up while breastfeeding in my own house?

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