Second child
I genuinely fear I wouldn’t be able to afford a second child. Which makes me so sad because I’d love another and more important I’d love a sibling for my current child.
but I don’t agree with parents who have children or multiple Knowing they can’t afford them and don’t ever do anything about it to try and change it.
I had to hand my notice into work at the end of my maternity leave, due to no nursery spaces and no one to have my son so that’s left me unemployed. Although I know when he starts pre school I’ll be able to get a job and make money again, I just fear in the years to come if I had another I couldn’t afford them both.
Living is so expensive now and I just worry.
Am I being logical? Or do I go ahead with my second child and figure it all out and know everything always works out somehow. Is it selfish of me to want another one when I have this worry in the back of my mind?
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Is it a normal worry when you have a second child that you might not be able to afford it?
not selfish at all! you have a desire for your family that you want to fulfill:) how long until little man starts pre school? did you have an age gap in mind?
hang on to everything your son has used, i know some people don’t like the idea of hand me downs but it’s a great way to save money on baby number 2
ultimately, you know when you and your family are ready. sending baby dust for the right moment❤️
My kid has already told me I would not be a grandma. I accept that and find it reasonable.
Not my body, not my choice
Things just aren’t the same as they were a few decades ago. Some question if it’s even ethical to have children nowadays.
I think it’s smart to question things. I think only you know what’s best for you and your children, but I think your questions are very valid questions. I wish I could help more.
I feel this so much. My son will turn 2 in June and he goes to nursery 2 days a week. I work 3 nights a week to workaround childcare all the other days as we can't afford him to be in full-time nursery (we *could* but I'm not paying out my full wage for someone else to care for my child and having nothing left to show for it🥲) - so I've been working part-time since he was 9 months old.
But when it comes to having another, even the reduced pay on maternity leave would be a huge blow and I'd expect to have to go back to work early. Also know we couldn't afford another lot of nursery fees, aswell as all the other costs that go with it!
I wanted a 2 year age gap but we're going to have to re-evaluate once my son starts full-time school at 4-5yo.
It's definitely not selfish to want another one. And you are being logical.. people say that things always work out and I do believe that in a way, but as mothers we also have to consider what impact our choices have on our babies
Times are definitely different now too. I was practically raised by my grandparent who retired at 55 and looked after me full time so my mum could work.. unfortunately don't have that luxury myself, we have no family to rely on for childcare as they all still work full-time themselves! We don't all have the "village" to raise children like there used to be
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