Anyone have a husband like this?

I work 2 full time jobs, pay all my own bills including buying all the stuff for my child that he steps parents. The only thing he pays for is rent (I pay utilities) and car insurance. I pay for everything else. Well, I just found out that he makes $20k a month. He brags to his friends that he pays for all my bills and takes care of my child ALL the time. All he does is pick him up from daycare (because it’s close to his work) and occasionally puts him to bed.

Everything we do has to benefit him in some way. We can never do anything I want to do without him throwing a tantrum like a child. He even goes to every work event with me, every hangout, I’m never alone unless I’m physically at work but he’ll randomly just show up to see what I’m doing. I’ve gotten to the point where everything gets to me emotionally and I’m on edge - I can’t even talk to him about my work day anymore without him bitching, I don’t have friends and when I make friends he hates all them and think they’re using me to find men. He tells everyone I’m crazy and need to be on medication even though he’s the one that’s been making me feel this way.

I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. The economy sucks, I don’t get child support and I have so much debt from our wedding because I had to take loans out. (He only paid for the venue)

Please any advice.

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Unhappy in marriage

Okay this is such a vulnerable post and I am aware you ladies don’t know me or my situation so I’ll try and paint it as best I can.
My husband on paper is an incredible man. He tends to me the best way he can, is so good with taking on stuff around the house, has been there for my sister when she needed help like moving etc but there’s one thing. I am not happy and don’t think he is either. We recently got married and had our baby. He really loves me but I just don’t think I feel the same. Now it was a very quick marriage as we are Christian’s but it’s starting to feel like that’s the only reason we got married. I got pregnant before our wedding (we were engaged) and leading up to then it was great but now that I am in the heaps of it there was so much that I feel I missed out on. I am in my twenties and feel miserable. Didn’t do what I wanted to do career wise, wanted to go back to my home country, and in part feel it was a mistake marrying him. He’s great but it just doesn’t feel like he’s my person. Now you are probably wondering, “why did you marry him?” Because I thought it’s what I wanted and also partially due to what felt like the pressure to get married. We had external sources say it’s best to marry before the baby is born etc but I am so unhappy. He just breathes and I get the ick. Now this is where I feel lost… I don’t know if I am just incredibly unhappy within myself and I just need to resolve this OR, he genuinely isn’t my person. I used to be very bubbly and outgoing but through the years I had some personal and family issues occur. He was there to support me but in many ways he didn’t know how. I feel incredibly confused on what to do because I don’t feel like this is how it should be. I feel so lonely, scared and depressed. Sorry ladies I know this is such a heavy one and trust me I am not proud of myself. I think I just want validation but if you were to paint a reality check, what would it be? Because I think most of the time we just want our feelings to be heard but not actually do anything about it and I know intellectually I am keeping myself in this place but struggling to face reality.

Okay yesterday I made a post about my husband being misogynistic and I just can’t.

I told him I want the divorce and explained why, so now he’s sending me these videos of this “manospere” stuff and they actually so insane they make me sick. He says it’s not misogynistic because women preach it too, so all day I’ve been getting videos of female YouTubers preaching. He says if I can’t be a good woman then maybe it’s better if I do leave, because he’s going to find three women to replace me with in a one sided poly relationship 😂😂😂😂

Thank goodness for tech

I honestly don’t know how our parents did it. My mom just turned 69 and my dad 70. I give them so many props for not giving us to a circus. If I didn’t have the gadgets we have nowadays I don’t know how I would entertain a baby and toddler. Right now I have music going while my baby hangs out on his blanket in the living room watching the galaxy projection on the ceiling. He’s been extra fussy this past week and won’t let me get anything done so this is amazing. Three cheers for the parents that embrace no tech. Y’all are real superstars. And if you do need extra batteries to get through the day I see you!

People who look at commenter profiles....

Do you find that the profile checks out with the comment that was made?

So I read a post this morning. I was reading through the comments and I stopped on one where all she seemed to do was spread misinformation. Someone responded to her trying to inform her on what was being spoken about and this chick only responded with k. Now obviously the original chick has no manners or class since thats all she responded. And it just showed she doesn't care at all about the topic being discussed. So I decided to check her profile and yup.... checks out. She does make up for a living... now I'm not saying all make up artists are rude and ignorant (I have known a few that weren't) but I feel like unfortunately rude and ignorant just makes sense for that profession. I have seen her comment on other things and she's just as ignorant or rude. Now the chick that responded to her hasn't responded yet, and I hope she doesn't because at this point she's just wasting her time. But hopefully if she does she will respond with dignity and class since the 1st lady couldn't do that.

BUT have you looked at someone's profile to see if the rude/arrogant/ignorant comment checks out and it did?

And for those that might try to stand up for her responding k. You know damn well what she meant. She basically said f you to the 2nd chick. K is NEVER a kind response. It's a smart ass response from someone who thinks they are smarter then the person they are responding to.

Separation anxiety 😩

My little boy started crying when I left the room the week before he turned 8 months, at first I thought it was because he’s with me 24/7 (I do leave him for a few hours some evenings and I have left him over night a few times) but he now does it with whoever he is alone with in a room! As soon as that person gets up to leave he will start panicking and crying and then he gets him self so worked up until you come back. I’m trying not to make a big fuss and when I come back I just say “look mummy’s back” rather than picking him up and giving the situation too much attention but any advice on what I could do will be helpful and how long this is going to last 🫣

From birth he’s always been a happy, content and independent baby. I never co-slept or contact napped, he was a baby that was always held either. Right up until this I could leave him playing with his toys for ages and get jobs done it was the best. What has changed?!

Am I being too sensitive?

This is going to sound insane… I went to buy a new trimmer (my husband broke mine shaving his armpits 🤧) He clearly also needs one so I suggested one of those all in ones with multiple heads. He was really rude about sharing heads (even though I said I would use only one particular head one for my sensitive areas). Now I am just fuming, he can use it on his armpits to borrow mine?? Also if he’s so disgusted don’t have sex with me then, also I know don’t want do to perineal exercises with him. LIKE SORRY I DISGUST YOU. I think this may be linked to me having some rapidly deteriorating self esteem due to upcoming Labour, but still I’m so mad 😂😭