Help 😫😫
Okay I really need some advice/ tips and reassurance I’m not a terrible mom/ only one that experienced something like this 😭
Disclaimer: my two year old is potty training (almost fully potty trained)
Today for Easter we were over my in-laws and as I’m wrapping up food to go in the kitchen, I hear my nephew who is like 4/5 yo, scream and start laughing and my mommy senses were tingling so I instantly went into the living room, and him and the other kids ages 4-10 yelled that my daughter pulled down her pants 😫
I’m like internally freaking out at this point because it’s literally one of my worst fears especially because of my algorithm on Instagram 😫 it’s not like the kids told her to pull down her pants…I genuinely think she was confused because she’s used to just being able to pull down her pants and go potty at home, but I’m still so mortified that the kids saw her private 😫
I instantly apologized of course and explained that she is still potty training and talked to one of the moms because her daughter looked disturbed 🙃 (understandably)
My husband told me I’m overreacting but I don’t think I am 😫 it all happened literally in like 30 seconds of me stepping away and I’m so mad that my husband didn’t supervise more closely while I was packing up our to-go plates.
Am I overreacting? Has anyone else experienced something like this before? 😫
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Hun this is soooooo normal. A 2yo does not understand privacy/body safety yet. They start to get it between 3 and 4.
My daughter went through a phase of lifting her dress and showing everyone her undies. She thought it was hilarious.
This isn't a disaster, don't dwell on it. Just stay calm and reiterate house rules. At 2, probably the easiest way to explain is "we always wear clothes when we are out of the house". And remind her to come find you if she needs the potty.
Could be worse my 7 year old asd son used to pull down his trousers in the park or food shopping as he found it funny! My daughter would lift up her dress when she was younger and show off her tummy. I don’t think your a terrible mum and it also isn’t the disaster you think it is. She’s learning about her body and unfortunately that can have mixed results. Maybe just gently emphasise that we don’t show people our underwear and repeat it.
Awe momma! I know you’re worrying but you must, for your sanity, and her mental health, not stress too much. You will face many challenges going through childhood and you have to brush them off and teach them with kindness when you see things you might not be (adulthood) happy about. We ALL did things growing up just like this and in public situations and I know at least 3 mums that are currently going through the female stages of humping and their little girls are enjoying themselves in public!!!
You momma are gonna need some chill pills!! And….
YOURE DOING A FREAKING AMAZING JOB!
💕💕💕💕💕💕
It’s just a body, we all have them, it’s just that she is old enough to grasp that we all have bodies & go potty but not old enough to grasp the additional boundaries people put on themselves & others about our bodies yet, she’ll get there.
Let’s put it this way, my 4yo will strip off his clothes any chance he gets, but now he knows not to do it in front of windows or if anyone other than dad, mom & brother are around. I have pics of me in my underwear on holidays bc my dad & brother had a hard time keeping clothes on me too, they did a really good job of not shaming me about it but talking to me about how not everyone can be trusted with me, now I don’t have any of those body image issues & never felt uncomfortable around other bodies, bc it’s just a body & we all have them. Those kids probably thought she was going to pee in the floor, bc when mine did this, that’s exactly what my great niece thought he was going to do, until he ran his potty.
My nephew is 3 soon & yesterday he went to the porch at my mom's & peed off into the yard. We all died laughing then clapped so hard (30+ people) he's going into undies this week 🤣❤️
So when I was younger I would say up to about 6 years old maybe (I'm guessing here so I could have been younger) when visiting my grandma, after taking a bath, I would run naked all the way back to the room I stayed in naked. Now that means running past the living room, dining room, and kitchen. My grandpa (who isnt blood related) would just sit laugh and continue watching TV. So I feel at 2 what she did was normal because again she needed to go potty and at home that's how she does it. I haven't started potty training my daughter yet (although now I'm wondering if I should) so I have no clue if it's normal or not. But I wouldn't be worried about it. I totally get being embarrassed because adults can be very judgemental towards other parents. But I dont think you should be.
Thank you all 💛💛💛 really appreciate knowing it’s normal! And appreciate the heads up that theirs more to come 😅😂😂
I am now partially realizing that I was so panicked also because my friend’s husband made such a HUGE deal when she pulled down her pants in our living room to run to her toddler potty when she had to go 🙄 he doesn’t have kids but was SO judgmental about it so I just internalized that it’s not okay. Needless to say, we haven’t invited him over since, but good to know that yes he was just overreacting
I’m confused what she did wrong, or why you were upset, she’s just a toddler who wanted the toilet? Nothing bad happened here
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