Advice Needed

I have been with my husband for 6 years, 2.5 years married, and have an 8month old. We have been through a lot in the 6 years we’ve been together - both victims of religious trauma, covid pandemic, miscarriage, moving multiple times, mental health issues, hard high-energy dogs, and now a new baby.

We are a good team and are working on our communication together but lately I keep feeling like my life would be easier without him. He has a hard time keeping a steady job and we keep going into debt on my credit cards. He is a chronic 🍃smoker (I smoke occasionally too but am not addicted), is easily triggered (has started seeing a therapist and is now on meds), and has a hard time being motivated (house chores, etc).

When things are good, they are really good. When things are bad, I wanna just get away and live a simpler life. I feel burnt out and exhausted all the time and don’t want to tip-toe around his emotions anymore.

Is this typical for a marriage after having a new baby? Do we just keep working through this or do we try something like a separation? This is scary for me to even type out but I feel at my wits end.

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Grandparents overbuying

Has anyone dealt with a grandparent who buys their child WAY too much stuff? Is there any way to get them to stop without it being the end of the world?
My MIL has good intentions but buys my daughter like 2 tote bags FULL of clothes and toys every month when we see her 🙃 Our house is quite literally overflowing with things and I don’t know how to tell her to stop in a nice way without her taking it as an attack to her as that’s how she shows her love

Is it ok to give toddlers tea biscuits?

My little one (20 months) always wants to copy us when we have tea and biscuits so instead of daddies Hobnobs I give him one of the 30% less sugar tea biscuits...I'm still worried it's too sugary but at least he's happy then! What do you think?

Conceal carry women: if you were taking your kids to a nature hike for a walk with another adult, would you ask if they’re comfortable with you bringing your gun or would you just bring it without saying anything?

For a little more info: the place we’re talking about going is the nature walking area because the paths are paved so I can easily push the stroller but it’s also kinda spooky walking there as a women especially with three young children. I really don’t thing it’s unsafe (I’ve been there before by myself before having kids) but you never know and I’d rather be safe than sorry. I haven’t seen this friend for years and I don’t really know if she’s comfortable with me having a gun but I also wanna feel safe walking with my kids 🤷‍♀️

Does your partner help?

Interested in knowing other people’s dynamics, I have a 2.5 year old n a 8 month old, I do absolutely everything with the kids and all the housework. My partner very rarely interacts with the kids.

Just trying to work out if this is the ‘norm’ as we’ve had countless discussions about this and nothing changes due to it being ‘my role as a mum’

How would you feel?

Last week we got invited over to a friends house for Easter dinner. I talked to my husband and told him him I’d like to go so that we don’t have cook and clean up. I’m 10 weeks postpartum and really would have liked to just relaxed. Well he insisted that we stay home, invite a couple people over and cook for our daughters first Easter. He’s the chef of our family. I told him I didn’t want to have to clean up after dinner. He promised that i could relax and he would handle everything. Well not only did i have to keep the kids all day so he could cook, while also asking me where everything is and sending me to the store for forgotten ingredients I woke up this morning after he sent me to bed early last night to literally every single dish, food and stuff still out. My husband rushed out for work this morning so here I am having to clean up while he calls me with an attitude complaining bout he’s tired. Im trying to not be upset but I really am. This is the reason i wanted to just go to our friends house instead of hosting. Rant over!

Owlet… Yay or Nay?

My fiancé and I have been debating since before our little one was born to get an Owlet. I keep seeing these horror stories about SIDS and mommas losing their little ones. They break my heart but simultaneously skyrockets my anxiety.

How does everyone feel about the Owlet? Are the features worth the cost? How long did you used the Owlet?