Trying to keep my cool, but going nuts 🫠

My husband just started going back to work. We have 2 boys and 1 girl 7 (will be 8 in 2weeks) my youngest son just turned 4 and our daughter will be a month on Wednesday. Not even a week yet, and it’s been so hard trying to keep up. My boys just don’t listen about being quiet. No matter how many times I ask them to close there door and play quietly, they within 5 minutes start again. When this morning was tough because our daughter was having bad gas, and I finally got her to take a nap. I wanted today to be a good and be able to be a super mom, but my patience is already running on low. My husband is really good with our boys, and they listen to him like no problems but when it comes me to, I’m like a joke to them.

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Having the same issues but with my 3 year old son and an 8 week old. I do feel bad telling him to be quiet as he is a child and just having fun. If he deliberately does things he shouldn't do then I set boundaries.

I can relate mama I don’t know what to tell you as I feel the same ways, my sons take me as a joke they don’t listen when dad comes around they listen my husband says I’m not stern enough but even when I try it doesn’t stick :( sending you hugs I can only imagine how hard it is with a newborn

I gave up honestly …. I have an 7 year old & Bf has an 8 year old . I just gave up . Its hard but at this point , Ive just gotten baby use to the fact the kids will make noise after like 7-8 weeks of trying with the baby . Now my baby is 7 months , she will nap with the noise but shes also in the nosey nursing stage ! I hope baby adjusts to home and the crazy siblings she’ll have soon . & Kids act completely different with mom than they do dad . Always remember that & never compare yourself with to that because its just the truth !! Wishing the best for you & Babies adjustment 💞

when my kids wouldn’t listen to me I started being more firm on what I say not yelling but like using a firm tone voice and now they always listen.

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