Mom's do you have your own car?

My car that I have now is too small. My sons legs are pushing the seat infront of him and I would like to buy a car. I doubt new because thats expensive. Im thinking a used car as its cheaper and when I pay it off its mine. Im also on disability I only bring in $2,300 a month and not sure if i should get an auto loan. I feel like I can do it but my partner had an auto loan and a job and could barely pay for it. Hbu?

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We saved up and bought a used car cash from a private seller. That way we didn't have to get a car note. Because cars get REALLY expensive once you start paying interest on a loan.

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Yes I have my own car, after 8 years of using my beater car (a Dodge caliber at 200k miles) we used my work program to qualify for a moderately sized discount on a car through carvana. My credit was decent so I qualified for a 600/mo car payment. When we both worked FT and I brought in more money it was doable, at this point we have had to get tight with our budget since we've been on one income but we still make it work. I could've gotten a cheaper/older car but it was my first time getting a car on my own so my husband wanted me to splurge a little and get a two year old car with 30k miles. It's been 3 years since but the other options were had were to go to a used dealer or do a private sale for a better price but not necessarily better car :/

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We had just my car (way too small for us lol) until last year we bought a new Chevy traverse. It’s way too expensive honestly we did the math and with down payment and monthly payments we’ve spent $26,000 in less than a year and still owe more than that. We kind of just had to make the payments work because we had to get a new car

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Don’t be a fool like me! Before you run upstairs to have a quickie with your husband make sure your baby monitor receiver is turned off so the whole rest of your house doesn’t hear ur shenanigans. 🫠🫠🫠

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Sleep!!

Our little girl at 10 weeks just slept from 730pm to 430am. She fell asleep on her dad and in bringing her upstairs at 10pm she was still fast asleep so decided as she was fed just before that to leave her until she stirs. She’s usually a good sleeper on the first stint of the night with atleast 6/7 hours but tonight she’s gone 9! Besides a little leakage as I’m exclusively breastfeeding I have no concerns. Would this one off affect my milk supply? For context when she woke she fed for 10 mins which is average for her and was content/ didn’t seem to be struggling.

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Bedtime Advice Please

Hi,
Im a first time mum to a 6 week old. I’ve seen a lot of people say their baby sleeps longer stretches than mine. Since she was born, in the evening we’ve put her down in her Moses basket in the living room until me and my partner go upstairs to bed. She’s waking up 3 times in the night. Would she be better at sleeping if I put her down in the next to me upstairs earlier in evening with baby monitor and get her in more of a routine every night?
I don’t know if I’m being stupid but I think maybe if she’s in more of a set routine sooner rather than later it would be best?

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Is my friend just spoiled or is she a terrible mother

I know that sounds harsh. But one of my best friends has changed since she married her husband who has money..

Shes due in May, doesnt seem excited about the baby at all. Talks about how she would never get pregnant again and would use a surrogate even tho shes had 0 real issues .. and surrogacy is hardly ethical. Regardless i dont judge it because its her choice.. now its added in with this other stuff im feeling otherwise.

She has a nanny, which i think is fine. We all deserve help! But now i found out the baby is going to be sleeping on an entirely different floor. IN THE NANNIES ROOM in a bassinet. The nanny will be doing all the “work” She says she never wants to hear the baby cry, she said she would never even let the baby in the bed to nurse… she’s wealthy beyond belief. Has everything she could want. I thought she would take motherhood seriously. Im not saying we all should struggle but this is hard for me to understand.. im not sure if it’s pregnancy hormones but shes acting like she doesnt even care about this child and only wants to do the “fun” stuff. Doesnt want to do diapers, treating this baby like its not a whole person. Says she will sleep train them as soon as she can and she doesnt give a f*** if the baby is crying for hours .. like it just does not seem to bother her? In hoping that things change when she her son.

Im struggling to stay close with her because i feel like shes now border-lining on neglect ? Am i wrong? Is this not crazy behaviour? And mind u this isnt the half of it !

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Baby not sleeping

Baby is 4 weeks old, last night he didn't sleep for literally one second unless he was on one of us. Clean nappy, fed more than enough (formula), burped well, made sure he was in deep sleep before transferring to next to me... awake within seconds. All day today he has been awake but not crying / fussy, just awake. And now the same as last night, awake and crying as soon as I put him down. I'm exhausted! What is going on?!

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Baby lost weight

We had our first health visitor visit today and baby had lost some weight since her birth. She was born at 2.9kg at birth. On day 3 her weight was 2.6kg and the pediatrician advised a feeding plan including supplementing formula so we did that and her weight went up to 2.81lg by day 5. We then slowly cut down on formula feeding as my milk supply started to gradually come in, and only formula feeding once just before bedtime. Today at day 12 her weight was 2.74kg and we're advised to go back on formula again also maybe during the sleeping hours so I can have better rest as that impacts supply too.

Has anyone been in similar situation or have any advice around a strategy we can use? Ideally we still want to feed baby mainly with breast milk, pumped or directly, but of course would like her to gain weight properly.

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