Is my friend just spoiled or is she a terrible mother
I know that sounds harsh. But one of my best friends has changed since she married her husband who has money..
Shes due in May, doesnt seem excited about the baby at all. Talks about how she would never get pregnant again and would use a surrogate even tho shes had 0 real issues .. and surrogacy is hardly ethical. Regardless i dont judge it because its her choice.. now its added in with this other stuff im feeling otherwise.
She has a nanny, which i think is fine. We all deserve help! But now i found out the baby is going to be sleeping on an entirely different floor. IN THE NANNIES ROOM in a bassinet. The nanny will be doing all the “work” She says she never wants to hear the baby cry, she said she would never even let the baby in the bed to nurse… she’s wealthy beyond belief. Has everything she could want. I thought she would take motherhood seriously. Im not saying we all should struggle but this is hard for me to understand.. im not sure if it’s pregnancy hormones but shes acting like she doesnt even care about this child and only wants to do the “fun” stuff. Doesnt want to do diapers, treating this baby like its not a whole person. Says she will sleep train them as soon as she can and she doesnt give a f*** if the baby is crying for hours .. like it just does not seem to bother her? In hoping that things change when she her son.
Im struggling to stay close with her because i feel like shes now border-lining on neglect ? Am i wrong? Is this not crazy behaviour? And mind u this isnt the half of it !
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It sounds like odd behavior but she also hasnt even had the baby yet - may all change xx
Are you able to advise her in a sweet way when the baby arrives, highlighting the good parts — for the baby’s sake, of course? You seem like someone who has a good conscience.
Sounds more like she's having a baby to 'secure' the alimony pony just in case than for the sake of having a baby with the person she loves
I couldn't be friends with her, what's the point of having a child and speaking of it like you're training a pet. And to just pass your kid onto the nanny so you aren't bothered by your child is crazy. Maybe she's just into the materialistic things in her life. I couldn't have a friend like that, since I adore motherhood and my child. Of course she could change her thoughts but she's actively pregnant, and not even soaking that up so I'd doubt it.
It’s sad but her feelings and attitude could completely change when the child is here. I’ve seen many people have ideas of what they will do when their child is born but do things completely different when the baby actually gets here
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