Normal?

Hey guys I need help with knowing if this is normal.

My first born son was the easiest baby ever. Rarely cried at all!
My second born cries about everything. His diaper changes are traumatic because he won’t let you do it and the only way to get a diaper done is to pin him down (we’ve given him our phone, toys, chewies, sang to him, silly faces, played with him- he will not let a diaper change happen at all and just screams)
He won’t let us wipe his hands after mealtime he screams and flales.

You can’t distract him once he works himself up.

At the beginning I was like “this is normal” but now he’s 10.5 months and still screams every diaper change and hand wipe

Is this normal?

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So with my daughter she does the same thing and I'll just give her a bottle to calm her down enough to change.

I think you just got lucky with your first. My daughter was exactly like your second and she’s still a drama queen now. I’m hoping my second child is like your first 😭🤣

My first was like your second. Screamed around the clock for 6 months. Then calmed down a little but was still overall an unhappy baby till about 13 months

My second is like this; he’s very sensitive to certain sounds and being overwhelmed and he does not like any “grooming” because he doesn’t like contact unless he initiates it

it seems like your son may be like this with certain sensations on his skin or not like feeling like something is “happening” to him. My husband tries to make a joke or game out of wiping his nose to get him to laugh, which works a lot of the time.

At 10 months I gave up on trying do change diapers laying down. We swapped to pull up style diapers and did all diaper changes standing up! Had baby place his hands on my shoulders & it was way easier than fighting a screamy crying poopy wiggly butt

My firstborn is your second born. Everything’s a fight even at almost 3 👍🏻 he was also a very unhappy unsettled baby. He’s made me feel 1 and done quite a few times 🤣💀

Have you mentioned this to the GP or Paed?

What is he like with baths, changing clothes?

This doesn't seem normal to me.

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