I’ve made a rod for my own back 😩

She is literally 11 weeks old..my 6.5 month old has only just started having consistent bedtimes, sleeping through & is no longer rocked or cuddled to sleep. You aren’t making a rod for anything, by carrying on rocking her to sleep. You aren’t making a rod for anything by enjoying every contact nap.
If she wakes up after an hour or has a ‘false start’ as you say then maybe she wasn’t quite ready for bedtime and then she needs more awake time to get back to sleep hence why she’s getting upset when you’re trying to get her straight back to sleep.

You aren’t making a rod for your own back girly. She’s 11 weeks old this is incredibly normal ❤️

My firstborn refused to sleep himself from day 1. He’s now 3 and still every so often climbs into my bed to cuddle at night. He still needs me to lay beside him until he falls asleep too!! He’s glued to my side whenever he’s awake 😂

My daughter is almost 5 months old and she sleeps herself all the time.

I’ve done nothing different between the two.

Some babies just need more comfort than others. Keep holding your baby and if you need to snuggle her then safely transfer if that works that’s okay!!!

Just cuddle her! My 3 year old still wants cuddles to sleep and she will get them until she doesn't want them. My 5 month old will fall asleep on his own but if he wants he will be rocked too.
Don't rush to put them down mama xx

My advice is if you’re becoming very sleep deprived I’d look into safe co sleeping if it gets to the point you genuinely can’t transfer her and can’t get a sleep. It worked wonders with my boy for a few months ❤️

You’ve not done anything wrong. I won’t repeat the other advice here because it’s all good but yeah don’t let anyone tell you you’ve done something wrong or made a rod for your own back. They are still TINY little humans who need you and your comfort x

Thanks all! I think I’ve let the health visitor get in my head about independent sleeping/settling - they make it sounds so normal?!

You’re right, she’s just a tiny person! My lil gal will continue to be cuddled to sleep 🫶🏼

Sleep coach here - if it helps, at this age false starts are likely to be developmental - they have super short sleep cycles :)

If they carry on for a few weeks, try leaving it a little longer for bedtime - 24 hour sleep needs drop around 4 months and this can be as much as up to two hours.

You are not making a rod for your own back by cuddling or rocking or feeding her to sleep - I promise! ❤️

Sounds like a sleep regression, just need to endure, dont blame yourself x

My 16 month old still wants a cuddle to go to sleep. Don’t worry in the slightest, they’re 11 weeks old, it’ll come if you want it to. One thing I’ve learnt is to not force anything x