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I’m 11 months PP can HV help with relationship issues and in-laws?! I’m at a loss of what I can do as my relationship is breaking down due to in-laws
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They can't help you with that. But if you wanted to leave, I think they could advise you finding accommodation.
I'm sorry you're at a loss, family relationships are so difficult sometimes!
They might be able to help you access support, like talk therapy (counselling). But I don't think they have a way of intervening with other family members. What kind of help do you feel you might need?
The issue here is your partners attitude more so than your inlaws. I had a very similar situation and I had to spell it out that either my partner wanted our family and to support me as the mother of his child or he wanted to side with his mum and sisters constantly who tramped my mental health into the ground.
We went no contact with them and it was the best thing we ever did but it had to be him that made that choice.
2 years on we now see his mum in small doses with lots of boundaries in place but we still don’t see the sisters x
No, that's not their role at all.
It sounds like your in laws suck, but a lot of people have that situation and it's manageable with a supportive and active partner. I'd say the main cause of the issues here is your partner!
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