First Time (Girl) Mom Questions

Hi, couple of questions. Due on Monday and couldn’t find any good information so I figured I’d ask those with experience. I have a couple of questions.

1. I heard wiping the lower belly to make your baby pee before you change their diaper works really well for not getting peed on for boys- I was wondering if it’s the same for girls and if it’s as much as an issue for girls? Would like to avoid getting peed on lol.

2. When you do change your lil girl, I know you wipe front to back and there is a limit on how much pressure you should put- would anyone be able to give me a good example of how much pressure should be used? I asked a nurse and they basically said however much it takes to get clean, but I’m not up for accidentally hurting my kiddo if I can help it lol

3. Is there any advice I can get from experienced moms in general? I want to pull all of the knowledge I can so I can do the best I can.

Thank you!

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Almost 4 year old throwing a fit because she doesn’t want to do something and wants you to do it for her. What do you do?

So my almost 4 year old sometimes has tantrums that last 45 minutes or more. Not super often but more often recently. Today she needed a tissue. I get her one. We sit down to play and she wants another one even though she still has the first. I tell her okay go get one. She has gotten them before and can reach them and the tissues are in the room with us.

She freaks and won’t. Then proceeds to scream and cry and beg me to get her one because she’s “just a baby and cant”. This lasts for 45 minutes. I sit with her and stayed calm and all the things I thought I was supposed to.

But is it normal to last this long? Should I have caved and gotten it? She pulls the baby thing quite often. And does have a 1.5 year old sister. She has always been very strong willed and an emotional baby/toddler/kid.

Potty Training

Hi ladies!

Currently attempting to potty train my 2 year old (1st April Baby).

We’ve done two days so far and day 1 was pretty successful (6/11 wees on the potty) but today I just feel deflated.

She hasn’t initiated any wees herself, I’ve caught 2 mid way through and she’s had 3 wees on the potty when I’ve made her sit down and try. We’ve had 2 accidents possibly 3 cause she said she weed in the bath 🤦🏼‍♀️.

She knows wee and poo goes in the potty, she’s an advanced talker and can explain that she needs to go but she’s started to refuse the potty. I feel like I’ve tried everything! Special books, stickers , activities, games, chocolates, even the language I’ve used and towards the end of the day she just straight up refused to sit on it…

What do I try tomorrow ?

She’s back at nursery on Friday and I wanted to have cracked it before then… we’re not even wearing pants yet!

Chicken korma & rice

So can a 7 month old have korma and rice just as it is? Sorry if this sounds stupid, I just can’t remember from when my daughter was this age!! It’s curry sauce from a jar with other stuff added for taste as we like our flavours!! (Not spicy hence the korma)

How do I explain this clearer??

(For context our son is nearly 3)

So this is mainly an issue for my husband and his parents. Don't get me wrong, our son LOVES his dad and his grandparents, however he can be a bit snappy and impatient with them at times, and says things to them that he would never say to anyone else (such as "go away!")

I've worked out pretty quickly that its because they don't really respect his space and will often not listen to him properly, talk over him/finish his sentences for him, and they will try to give him affection when he doesn't want it or is busy doing something.

I've tried to explain it to my husband as best I can, that it's important to make sure LO feels like he's in charge of his own body in terms of who gives him affection etc, that we can't just kiss and cuddle him all we want because he's cute. The thing is, my son will always come running to me for a cuddle and a kiss, he loves snuggling with me on the couch and holding my hand, and I put it down to the fact that it's on his terms, or I'll ask first. If he says no I just say "okay honey" in a very neutral way (not disappointed, guilt-tripping way like they do!)

Plus whenever we're snuggling on the couch for instance, I'm usually reading or scrolling and he'll be watching something, like it's very passive if that makes sense. Whereas if anyone else snuggles with him they smother him constantly with kisses, keep loving on him, stroking him like a puppy etc, he gets annoyed and doesn't want a snuggle anymore and then they're all disappointed.

I know they're just happy and excited and love him so much, but he's getting to be a bigger kid now and wants his independence, and wants to be heard, and it's important that he knows when he says no thank you that it holds weight and people don't just get to do whatever they want because they 'love him so much'.

Anyways, that turned into a bit of a rant sorry 😅

It also just bugs me that they don't listen to him properly when he talks. He's nearly 3, so his speech is coming along pretty quickly but he still talks like a toddler and sometimes it takes repeating a few times to understand what he means. He's very good at trying to articulate what he's thinking and will often repeat as many times as you ask, but they never do! They just say "oh I'm not sure what he said" and just assume or guess. I know it's a bit silly and maybe I'm being too sensitive but it just bugs me. It's almost as if they think he's just not a proper person yet? 🥲🥲

Husband help (long)

Last Friday my husband and I got into a really heated argument over alot of different things but it started with me asking him to stop yelling. We have a 3 year old 1year old and I am 8months pregnant. I told him that if that how he was going to treat them that will be his responsibility to repair that relationship down the road but in the mean time I don’t want to hear it. Then he proceeded to call me a hypocrite.

So then it just escalated I told him that he needs to actually help out with things around the house I work full time he works full time and we work opposite shifts so we both always have both the kids then we are off on the weekends together. Either way he told me that he does a bunch of stuff and I asked for examples of what he does and he used the example of him have the Monday-Thursday morning shift. I said like I have the same ordeal. But i never get a break on the weekends together from sun up to sun down it’s all mom cleaning laundry meals he does very little to help out and still gets the sleep in till 9 o’clock.

During the argument I just kinda shut down and let him talk with he proceeded to say fuck you about 15 times and called me a bitch many more times. Then said that I was just using him, so after him insulating me 20 times I got so pissed I threw a pan at him. Not hard and kinda involuntary really.

He proceeds to tell me that I’m alike all the other women in his life and I’m no good I crossed a line and I’m just like my mom have babies then leave the daddy (not once did I ever say anything like this) I was simply asking for help with all the tasks around the house. He told me it was back stabbing to assume that he does nothing.

Fast forward through the weekend he never apologized never admitted he was in the wrong, we barely talked satday and Sunday. Monday-Thursday we talked a little but only through texts and I still can’t seem to not be really hurt by the whole situation. I know that I have something’s to apologize for but I not once called him any names told him that he was a pos or anything but he did all that to me. The worst thing I did was throw a pan at him because he called me a no good bitch for the 3 time.

Idk what to do about this but I want to call him out but I still feel like he has the same attitude towards the situation

Does your child go/ will be going to public or private school?

If your child goes to private school, can you tell me why you made that decision. Also, if your child goes to public school, can you tell me why you made the decision.