Potty Training

Hi ladies!

Currently attempting to potty train my 2 year old (1st April Baby).

We’ve done two days so far and day 1 was pretty successful (6/11 wees on the potty) but today I just feel deflated.

She hasn’t initiated any wees herself, I’ve caught 2 mid way through and she’s had 3 wees on the potty when I’ve made her sit down and try. We’ve had 2 accidents possibly 3 cause she said she weed in the bath 🤦🏼‍♀️.

She knows wee and poo goes in the potty, she’s an advanced talker and can explain that she needs to go but she’s started to refuse the potty. I feel like I’ve tried everything! Special books, stickers , activities, games, chocolates, even the language I’ve used and towards the end of the day she just straight up refused to sit on it…

What do I try tomorrow ?

She’s back at nursery on Friday and I wanted to have cracked it before then… we’re not even wearing pants yet!

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For the first 3 days we were literally sitting my son on the potty and he sat for a few mins if there was no wee he sat again 15 mins later..it's a slow tedious process but by the end of the week he could do an hour.
If you make it this huge pressure thing they won't want to do it. Have you tried blowing bubbles or singing a song while she sits?

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Maybe she’s just not ready? She’s still very young. Both mine were over 3 before we potty trained as we waited until they were ready.

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I agree with N, my daughter wasn’t ready, I tried a few times between age 2 - 2.5. I then just left it and she pretty much trained herself at age 2 and 9 months. It took her about 5 days and since then a handful of accidents and she’s 3 and half now. I’m going to do the same with my son and leave him as long as I need to.

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Day 2 can be the worst and even day 3 but then it just clicks a lot of time, if you can read oh crap potty training. I believe this is a great age to try and don’t be put off just after two days. We did 3 days with no pant on basically and left underwear off until a couple of months so he could feel accidents. We stayed at home for 4 days over a bank holiday weekend and then nursery took over with pants on. I was amazed how he could pick it up as he showed no signs of readiness, family commented it was too soon and after day 2 I thought it wasn’t going to happen to. There will be the odd accident now and again but stick with it.

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We potty trained our son at 2 as he could communicate well and knew what the toilet was for. There were a good few days of accidents, we found putting him in tight leggings worked well as he could feel he was wet and tell us he needed new ones if he’d had an accident. Once we started we didn’t go back so I’d say go with it. Nursery were fab too and they had other children potty training at the same time so it helped our son seeing other children doing what he was. They have set routines in nursery for the toilet which helped. It took a good week to get things going well. We used puppy pads in the car seat and pram early on if we went out and thought he may have an accident. If he really kicked up a fuss about staying on the toilet we’d just leave it and go back later, it was often he just didn’t want to go and could hold it for longer than we thought

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Don’t give up!! It’s such a journey but once you’re though it you won’t look back. Just keep calm and be consistent it’ll fall into place soon:)

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Currently attempting to potty train my 2 year old (1st April Baby).

We’ve done two days so far and day 1 was pretty successful (6/11 wees on the potty) but today I just feel deflated.

She hasn’t initiated any wees herself, I’ve caught 2 mid way through and she’s had 3 wees on the potty when I’ve made her sit down and try. We’ve had 2 accidents possibly 3 cause she said she weed in the bath 🤦🏼‍♀️.

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