Struggling today

I am really struggling with small things that will set me off.

For the most part, I'm a super composed, super organised person. I discipline my kids effectively and calmly and try not to shout. My kids are well behaved, healthy and my eldest is a great sleeper , my youngest still wakes at least once a night.

However, with my spouse , anything little will set me on edge

E.g Both kids in bed at 7.30 pm last night. He went out with his friends but baby woke up like 4 times before 11pm so I didn't get much prep done for today. He got up with 3yr old at 7am , giving me time to get ready. When I went down with the baby at 7.30pm , he's shoved the breakfast pots in the sink, not even attempted to empty dishwasher, grabs his breakfast and goes to work.

Now, I know he gave me time to get ready, but if it was the other way round& I'd do the dishwasher, the bottles , put the washing on (which literally just needed stsrt pressing) and feed both kids breakfast.

It's not that he doesn't pull his weight, he does .

It's easier to not get mad when he's not there because then I KNOW I have to do it myself.

Also a container of snacks me and my son had homemade fell out of the freezer and cracked all over the floor and that sent me over the edge and i cried in the car

I just feel like dad gets to play all the time and I feel like I have to do all the boring stuff.

I am not slagging off my spouse, I just want to know does anyone else feel luke this .

Is it part of being a mum?

I ferl lije I have no tolerance for anything not going to plan anymore

I am also going back to work (in a different place) next week and I know I am anxious about that

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Mother in laws

Anyone else having issues with their mother in laws?!? We use to get along great and now I can’t stand her. With are 3 month old I tell her how I want things done she waits till I’m busy with my 9 year old or I’m in the shower and does the complete opposite of what I asked and then yesterday had the nerve to cuss me out while holding my 3 month old . I wanted to kick her out my husband told me I should have but I didn’t manly because I didn’t want my 9 year old daughter to be upset. Idk what I should do but thanks for letting me vent

Should he go?

I’m a bit in two minds about this. My husbands very good friend (and one of his groomsmen) is getting married in November. It is a 3.5 hour drive away. I am due October 20th. We will also have a 2 year old. I will obviously not be going as there’s no way I want to be driven all that way 3-4 weeks post partum.

He’s such a good dad and I know that he’ll leave it up to me to decide and won’t force going. He’s been amazing this pregnancy and done 95% of the childcare so I can rest. I sort of want to say he can go but I’m terrified of being alone that fresh post partum. What should I do?

Do I have a right to be upset?

My BIL turns 40 in June, his wife messaged asking if we would be joining for the trip, but I cant becauae by then I'll be 36 weeks and do not want to risk travel. Husband declined as well. W

Well today BIL wife messaged my husband asking for sure he can't make it for like a day or two? And honestly I knew this was going to come up. He hasn't decided and we will be talking it over, but why does it make me mad that she would even ask again? I know if she were in my place she wouldn't have her husband travel across the US when she is that far along

Is it wrong for an adult grown women that lives in the same neighborhood as you to purposely try to be spiteful and petty towards a child?! correct me if I'm wrong.

So my son has really bad anxiety.. long story short he was diagnosed with selective mutism by a physiatrists.. anyway he got into it with a neighbor across the street from me because her daughter is annoying to him.. so my son ended up going to her door and she storms out yelling at him and asking him what is his problem.. by the time I got out my car to head towards him he pushed her and she grabbed him by his shirt and jacked him up and was like keep your son away from my house. Mind you we live in an apartment complex lol things got out of hand real quick.. of course she went and told the leasing office.. and she just suggest the kids stay away from eachother. ANYWAY my son has 3 kids that he was really tight with up until today. ( her kids and the other kids and my son was all playing together outside ) since that last incident happened my son been staying to himself.. she invited my son friends inside her house and literally excluded him out in front of everybody my son got upset and started crying.. mind you she never invited them in her apartment until she seen that's what i was doing.. and her kids aren't even " close " with those other kids.. i felt so bad for my son because his feelings was hurt.. i feel like she was being spiteful as hell and was trying to purposely trigger him. Imagaine being left out like that in front of everybody.. i understand her and my son had that situation but he is literally a child 8 years old.

Is it right????

Hey there! I’m a sahm.. I need advice.. my husband and I gotten into a fight about “communication” since he works all the time and is on work calls all the time. Well I kinda kept my distance with everyone but fake smile for my babies for 2 days because I recently been feeling alone and I had family drama with my own, he’s been asking what’s wrong I told him that he’s always on the phone when you’re home (he works out of town a lot and home on weekends) and he said he’s not always on it and got upset got up and left the room but he came back got more into a fight..well I told him fine go leave then, ik I’m wrong to tell him to leave which he did and I’m dealing with postpartum rage/depression, but I made an appointment with a doctor to help my health journey but anyways I called him the day he left saying how sorry I am I got no calls back and his mom called me saying he needs to take a break so now when I call him he put me on silent mode, at this point idc about the fight he has 2 girls 1 is 5 and the other 8 months old, he hasn’t called me to check up on the girls nor gave me money I have $125 cash thats it, I’m home alone. My anxiety is finally calming down but dealing with a teething baby and keeping a 5 year old busy is hard. I called him again to tell him I am sorry and being home all the time is hard and the rage and to forgive me on my part but he’s completely silent, I also have a bubble marathon run on Saturday but Friday I have to register in.. I hope he comes home but the no talking is that strange??

Why can’t I get it together

I feel like such an asshole and idiot. I couldn’t even get my mind together today to make my poor babies dinner on time. One youngest one being 1 kept telling me she was hungry. By the time I got my mind together come up with something to eat (we don’t have may groceries to work with right now) she fell asleep 😭😭😭😭😭 and I tried to wake her to eat but she was so tired she didn’t want to wake up. And I feel terrible because I could hear her little stomach grumble. Idk what’s wrong with me, I hav such brain fog that I can’t even get the basic things done around the house. I contemplate it so much that the state of my house is driving me insane and such a big mess and I can’t get myself out of it. I feel like such a failure.