Should he go?

I’m a bit in two minds about this. My husbands very good friend (and one of his groomsmen) is getting married in November. It is a 3.5 hour drive away. I am due October 20th. We will also have a 2 year old. I will obviously not be going as there’s no way I want to be driven all that way 3-4 weeks post partum.

He’s such a good dad and I know that he’ll leave it up to me to decide and won’t force going. He’s been amazing this pregnancy and done 95% of the childcare so I can rest. I sort of want to say he can go but I’m terrified of being alone that fresh post partum. What should I do?

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You have “his mum” as an option?? If so I’d tell him to go, take the toddler and I’ll stay back w the baby and his mum.

My husband works away occassionally, the 2 months leading up to my due date he was home constant. But then when he went back to work 4 week PP his managers where like "well let's get all that missing time away done at once" so he was basically away the ENTIRE summer. Sometimes only 3 hours away, sometimes 7 hours away. I was so scared, especially as a first time parent, but his mum was there for me IF I needed her.

I know my circumstances are not the same because I was forced into it with only a newborn, but I think youll be fine with help. Youll probably be fine on your own, but maybe just see how your feeling closer to time.

Is there anyone that you could invite over for the day to help you? I’d let my partner go but try to arrange support on the day.

I’d have his mum take your 2 year old for a few hours as an option and let him go by himself. Depends on if the baby is late and when the wedding is and recovery time. If the baby is on time or early then you may have your own routine already.

Defo get MIL support and let him go, weddings are a one-off and theyre important too I think

As long as you're not having a C-section I would expect you'll be feeling great 3-4 weeks pp. This is your second time, so the adjustment is not as bad. I'd ask your MIL for help with your 2 year old and let him go alone

Arrange for toddler to have special treat grandma sleepover and you have some alone time with baby, you could then meet your mum the next day for lunch / playgym. Best of both worlds!

I cant see how 3-4 week PP would be an issue unless it was a section. If you went as a full family it would super cute and enjoyable to share yours with theirs.
If not going together is an option though I would let him go but keep toddler with you and have his mum over to help you.
I dont personally think its fair to send the 2yo away with him as he cant fully enjoy time with his friends. Unless its a heavily kid friendly wedding? 🤷🏼‍♀️

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