Mother in laws

Tbh I’d probably just start limiting time spent with her until she can start listening to your boundaries and following them. If she can’t do what you ask I wouldn’t let her watch your kids without you or your husband there.

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I really try to empathize with my mother in law on why she might make subtle and passive aggressive remarks. Like when my kids have kids, will I be like this? I really can’t relate or understand why this happens. My mother in law is very bitter towards us, must I say it may even be envious. Is it that a mother in law doesn’t want to see her son leave the nest? Like my husband is an grown adult…. Not a 21 year old young man. I am always perplexed.

Yeah I feel like mine is mad that her son is my best friend and now we have 2 kids when she only got to have one. I’ve been trying to be understanding for the past 10 years. I feel like I can’t anymore and my 9 year old loves her so much it makes me sad to cut her out

I didnt speak up in the beginning and I should have (she's always been a bit of a narcissist and there have been comments over the years that I ignored) and while I was pregnant it got 10 times worse. My son is 14m old and I'm done. We havent spoken since August (and that was a text) she hasn't seen me or my son since he was 3m old. She's not welcome in my house. My husband told me to yell at her every time she overstepped during pregnancy. I didn't want him to have to deal with it because she'd call him and twist it.
Honestly, limit your time with her. You can always try to have the conversation about how you don't appreciate her cussing you out or any of the other things she's done, but it's possible it will fall on deaf ears. Good luck.

You were in the right and it's not her child. It's her grandchild. There's two different roles

my MIL gave my preemie daughter juice. at 4 months (2 months 3 weeks corrected). after asking me when i’m giving her juice. and i said “not until she turns 1.” this same MIL laughed in my face as i removed my daughter from the room because her father and his father were having a screaming match. we don’t live with them/talk to them anymore.

YOU are the parent. not her. if she feels she can disrespect you in front of your children, it will teach your children that it’s ok disrespect you because grandma does it. she would’ve been out of my house the second she started swearing at me in front of my kids!! you have so much grace for allowing her to stay. i admire you for that!

I would say have a sit down with her, draw a clear direct boundary, limit her time with the kids/keep an eye on her while she has the kids. if she crosses the line again, she’s out! don’t let her tell you how you should be parenting YOUR children in YOUR home.