It’s so hard to chat with a mom on here when they literally disagree with everything you say in a sort of passive aggressive way.

For example, we’re just trying to get to know each other and I just mentioned that my kids go to school except for my youngest who stays home with me. And she’s like “oh well we home school I could never send my kids to school”
Which is fine I get it. I support all means of education.
But then I’m like “I like to go work out at the gym a couple evenings a week while my husband watches the kids”
And she’s like “oh I don’t like leaving my husband with more to do after he already worked all day”
And then I mention my 4 year old is watching bluey while I take a quick break. And she’s like “oh we don’t do tv in our house”.

It feels like literally anything I have to say is immediately negated and judged.

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I went through something similar. We had one playdate and I felt picked apart then she ghosted me. I saw her daughter was in the hospital so I checked in to make sure everything was okay and got an answer... Then nothing after that and then she blocked me lol. But she made comments about me using the wrong terminology for being in the UK then made comments at the time about my son tiptoeing when he hadn't even learned to walk yet 🫠

Thats horrible! Theres so many people put there who think they're the perfect parent, and the way they do it is the only way.

Id get ao judged 😂 i work full time so my daughter is in nursery 4 days a week, she eats chocolate regularly, I leave her with my husband ALLLL the time, even if its just to get half an hour uninterrupted scrolling time. And the tv is on all more than I would like but I also hate silence so its on for background noise.

The other mom sounds like a passive aggressive prick to be honest with you 🤷🏽‍♀️

Who has time for such negative bullshit? She’s clearly not interested in being your friend so block, delete and move on.

I don’t understand the moms that only wanna be friends with somebody that does every damn thing the same as them. She sounds rude af lol.

Why are you talking to this woman? Lmao

interesting to learn that sort of performative pick me behaviour isn’t limited to apps where men are watching

I would just move on and stop talking to her … no one needs this type of competition in their life …

Yeah… I’ve not got time for people like that. Stop talking to her and move on. You’ll find your village!

I wish people warned me how EVERYONE judges you once you become a mother.

It’s like super misogyny purity culture

You gotta remember, most people are too ignorant to understand that a lot of people live differently than them. What works for their child doesn’t necessarily work for yours and vise versa

I honestly dont understand why some Mums feel the need to compete. It is not a competition. It is a mission to get them to survive to 18 and come out well rounded adults. Isn't that enough!

I would try to chat with mom who has a similar perspective on their kids (even if not 100% the same). Being mom's doesn't mean you're gonna share interest

I wouldn’t bother conversing with that person farther 🤷🏼‍♀️

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