Toys at grandparents home

Just wondering if Im being weird about this?
My MIL lives about 15 mins away I take our daughter there quite a bit, she has nothing kid friendly at her house so I asked her to get a couple toys that can live there so I dont have to bring toys every time we go over...she said yeah yeah and thats shes ordered some stuff on amazon. Turns out what she ordered was just table corner protectors, no toys or anything. So I asked again and she said that our baby doesnt need toys, she will just find things about the house to occupy herself like the tv remote.
I get it but at the same time if I thought like that then my child would be playing with wires, keys, my phone, batteries ect and not baby friendly things at my home so it doesnt make sense to me? She needs age appropriate toys. I take her there at least once a week, sometimes more... so its a lot for me to take everythint all the time, I bring the baby, all her nappies, spare clothes ect plus toys, things for her to eat ect. All im asking for are a fee toys that live at their house.
I know I could leave my own toys there but she complained about me 'not letting her be grandma' when our daughter was first born because I wanted to recover at home for a week and when we did visit I wanted to hold my baby more than she expected. So now Im like.... you wanted to be grandma, im asking you to help me out as grandma and buy your granddaughter a couple of toys for your house and you wont do it?
Ive ended up leaving a walker and a couple toys there and a couple spoons and a bowl . She has the walker behind the sofa and doesn't get it out when we do go round or anything Ive left. So I feel like I have to still bring toys there.
My dad lives 2 hours away, we've gone to visit 3 times since our daughter was born and hes bought toys and a high chair for her and bowls and spoons for her and I didnt even ask him to.
So me asking grandma who lives 15 mins away to buy a couple toys to make things easier for me and she wont doesnt sit right with me at all? Am I wrong. I
And I do bring toys from our house to grandma's everytime we go but theyre toys my daughter likes the most that week so im not going to leave them there. I left a couple bits but what Im asking is for her to get some as well so lighten my load.

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I would honestly not go round there as much. Shes clearly got zero interest. Youre not asking anything at all, and the fact you've actually left stuff there and she STILL doesnt get it out is just testimony to that. She wants to be grandma in name and not by nature, which unfortunately I dont think you can change

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