Remaining embryos from IVF
Our family is complete and exists because of IVF. We have healthy, adorable children and 10 remaining embryos that are all 5AA or 4AA and created a decade ago when I was 27.
We no longer feel the necessity to pay the annual fee to have them stored, especially since the price continues to increase. Started at $300 annually a decade ago and is now $1200 annually. Ouch.
I have prayed, researched and reflected and my body, mind and soul wants to donate them to someone else. I am open to whatever that would look like-- recieving news of a healthy birth, subsequent updates, offering access to our family tree/health/photos, even the idea of finding a way to meet and include the embryos turned human + their parents family if that door ever opened. I'm also okay with never knowing anything. Passing on the gift of life that we struggled to create but because of science was made possible sounds better than donating to research or discarding. My husband isn't sure if he agrees.
How much time should I give him? Our storge renewal fee is coming up in June and seems unnecessary to continue paying that when we could pivot to closing the chapter.
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Confused with this post, how are you discarding them?
If he's not comfortable he's not comfortable, I think June is enough time because I don't think it's something he's likely to change his mind about in a years time. I would consider the alternative of donating them for research as still something positive you can do that could still indirectly help other people. Maybe do a little research about stories about families that have been made with donated embryos and show him to see the difference you could make, but I wouldn't push too much. Maybe have one sit down conversation then agree to leave it a month so you can both think independently? Whilst I think the way you feel about it is beautiful and it would be wonderful if you could donate them, it's totally fair if he's not on board
Does he want more children? Or does he not want other people to birth yours?
I think his reasoning determines my answer. If it's a matter of he's against the embryos being donated, then it may not be about giving him time at all. Are you open to disposing of them if he doesn't agree to donating?
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