Sex after c section ?

When did everyone return to sex after c section?? Just curious.. I had a c section recently and it SUCKS I want to know how long it takes

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No bump

I am 20 weeks tomorrow and I only have a real small bump! I know some people will be like 'think yourself lucky'. But I just want to look pregnant, I have wished for this for so long!
Still not feeling any movement i dont think just wish I felt pregnant and looked it.

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When did you know your about to give birth?

So this is my 2nd pregnancy.
First one, my water broke before contractions hit at 37w3d (which i hear only happens to 10% of pregnancies).
This go around, the entire pregnancy has been different from the first. As of right now, at 35w4d, I have no idea if what's going on down there is mucus plug break or just discharge. Definitely not a water break. Also for 2 days in a row when I wipe my butt there is wet poo like diarrhea though I havent shat recently so idk what up with that. 🤔
When did yall know you were about to give birth? The first time i just lucked out and my water broke and we went to the hospital right then. 🤷‍♀️

If you wanted an unmedicated vaginal birth, did you have one?

In my opinion there is such a pressure to have an unmedicated vaginal birth and all social media and midwives are telling you ”your body was made for this” ”try Hypnobirthing” ”just breathe baby out and it’ll be fine” when in reality birth is just not like that. I have so many friends who wanted this ideal pain free dream vaginal birth but all ended up with emergency c sections and felt like they failed/were upset when it went the way it did.

I’ve had two unmedicated vaginal births. First one was extremely traumatic and made me want an elective c section the second time but classic nhs gave me a date that was late and my baby arrived before then so ended up having another unmedicated vaginal birth. Despite the second birth being a textbook ”good” birth I still found it unbelievably painful and in no way empowering and all these other words flying around social media and what my doula used.

Is there too much pressure on women to have this magical unmedicated vaginal birth? And therefore so many mums feel upset when it doesn’t happen? Let’s not forget that c sections are now the most common births in the UK.

This is basically a rant and I’m just interested to hear people’s opinions. No right or wrong all women are amazing however they birthed their babies!

Nursery essentials

My LG is due to start nursery in 3 weeks and was wondering what essentials I will need. She hasn’t had her settling in yet due to it being closed for half term.
What do you mamas pack in the nursery bag.
She take a dummy for sleep and I know I’ll need to pack 2 due to her needed the comfort in the beginning.

Period after c-section

Hi! I just got my first period since my c-section and I’m not sure how it’s gonna be. Any advice?

Tips on dealing with episiotomy pain?

I'm 4 days pp and I can't sleep from the pain of the wound. I'm exhausted and just want to sleep! I've taken paracetamol and ibuprofen but as I'm breastfeeding I can't take anything else. I'm using ice packs but if I'm in any position other than sat up with my legs spread (heels to bum knees spread) then I'm crying in pain. What can i do. I really need to sleep. Thanks