Just need to vent i wanna cry

Hi ladies. I really want to say something to someone but not sure who to talk to. Long story short, my husband works 2hrs away from home, and he is doing good there so we’re moving closer to his job. That means we have to sell our beautiful home and move into a smaller apartment in NY. I am so sad but I don’t want to tell him. He is so excited he won’t have such a grueling commute and he will also have more time to spend with our son and me. I know its whats best for our family, but I am so sad to leave NJ. I love it here. We have our own home, I loved my job, we had a yard our son could play and we could entertain. Now we’re losing that, and Im getting sad 😔. I don’t want to tell my husband because I don’t want him to feel bad or anything, as this is a good thing for him, and our family in the long run. Opinions welcome but I just really kind of needed to tell someone else, I guess 😭

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You could rent your house for extra income, and when you want to move back there you can

We considered that but we wouldn’t even be making profit. Our mortgage is higher than the cost of rent, and here in NJ the landlord pays for water bills, which can be pricey. We would need to rent it for over 4k, and in the area we live in, its just not that expensive. Even if we got that much, we would just barely cover the mortgage and any other expenses. My husband is the math whiz, when he did the math it was just not adding up 😭

I just don’t want to be unsupportive, you know? He has been commuting for over 2 years and he is tired. There are days he doesn’t see our son, and we barely have time to spend with each other because of it. I know that it is the best for our family rn, but I am also feeling sad about leaving behind the house we worked so hard to get, the job of my dream, and the space and tranquility to raise our son. I asked him if he could just get a job closer, but he is afraid he won’t make the same and then we’d be struggling. Im just a teacher and we don’t make much, so he wants to make sure we’re ok. I just feel like im being selfish by not wanting to move, but he is a really great husband and father, and he has done so much for us. Im just sad about the situation 😪

That sounds so hard!!! It’s so sweet to hear you care so much for your husband and family. I imagine you’re a wonderful wife and mother. 😘 I think lots of things can be true at the same time!! You can be happy for the change and still grieve the loss because of the change too. I understand. I’ve moved so many times in my life and every time is so stressful and hard and painful. 😅 But for what’s it’s worth, it sounds like you’re doing such a mature thing by letting your hubby lead you guys to a better situation. I think it’s very selfless of you to do what’s best for your family, especially when it’s a such a sacrifice. I think it’s okay to be sad and I don’t think it makes you selfish. 💜 I’ll be praying for you! ❤️🙏🏻

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