New SAHM having issues relating
I’m having the best time the 1st year of motherhood and I cannot relate to 95% of other moms to the point it’s making it hard for me to make new mom friends. I used to work 60-80 hours in corporate finance so this is the lowest stress I’ve had in years. I basically spend my days outside exercising with my baby and doing a ton of stuff like farmers markets, swim lessons, playgrounds, street festivals, museums, restaurants, baseball games. We are very clean and organized but we live in an apartment so it only takes me about an hour a day and a 2 hour deep clean every Sunday to keep our home together. I’ve worked hard exercising the last few years to lose about 40lbs so I also feel great physically. Many moms I meet instantly ask me if I’m also “lonely at home” or how I feel about new body and I feel like no matter what I say, it makes me sound like an asshole. I really want to encourage them to come outside with me but they immediately say it’s too hard. I think I just need to work harder to find some moms who are doing the same things I am, but I also feel guilt essentially not wanting to be friends with nice people who are having a hard time adjusting. I want to make some new mom friends because I’m also not relating to old my friends because most of them don’t have kids. Is anyone else having this problem?
I need to vent
I’m happily married and my husband is an amazing dad but he works a lot, leaves as soon as we wake up and gets home after she’s in bed. His days off are Sunday & Monday, I work Monday so he has our daughter while I’m gone. This leaves only Sunday to do family stuff, go to church & have some alone time for myself. That being said, I don’t actually get my alone time but my husband does, he doesn’t understand that I’m needed 24/7 even in my sleep bc I’m exclusively breastfeeding. I need a few hours of autonomy where I can have me time that isn’t at night when my daughter goes to bed. Last night was Pascha so we were up late and my husband wanted to go to 11am vespers, it’s now almost 4pm and I feel guilty for asking him to come home but he gets to do whatever he wants… what about me??? When do I get to do what I want? When do I get to have hobbies?? I love my daughter and love being with her all day but I still want to not be needed for a few hours.