I need to vent
I’m happily married and my husband is an amazing dad but he works a lot, leaves as soon as we wake up and gets home after she’s in bed. His days off are Sunday & Monday, I work Monday so he has our daughter while I’m gone. This leaves only Sunday to do family stuff, go to church & have some alone time for myself. That being said, I don’t actually get my alone time but my husband does, he doesn’t understand that I’m needed 24/7 even in my sleep bc I’m exclusively breastfeeding. I need a few hours of autonomy where I can have me time that isn’t at night when my daughter goes to bed. Last night was Pascha so we were up late and my husband wanted to go to 11am vespers, it’s now almost 4pm and I feel guilty for asking him to come home but he gets to do whatever he wants… what about me??? When do I get to do what I want? When do I get to have hobbies?? I love my daughter and love being with her all day but I still want to not be needed for a few hours.
Avoiding burn out
Hello! I’m a first time mum of a beautiful almost 2-month-old baby boy with no village, not even one helping hand! He is having one of those phases where he constantly wants to be held and cuddled. If he’s left on the crib on his own for a few minutes, he wakes up and cries. I want to hold and cuddle him as well but I have severe back pain from the C section, and I also had a bit of an accidental fall from the stairs on the 8th day after the C section which gave me a very bad ankle injury. I’m trying my best but recently I’ve been feeling completely burnt out. I can’t sleep, cook, eat properly, or even shower. Please tell me I’m not the only one going through this. And please tell me that it gets better. And any word of advice as to how I can deal with this phase is most welcome. I feel like I’m not good enough. I feel like a bad mum. 😔🙏