Do you actually work hard for what you have or does your job just pay you more money?

On the topic of families becoming unable to afford groceries, someone said that they don't care about anyone struggling or hungry because they simply worked hard for the food they have.

Unless that person has a job in agriculture or food production then they didn't actually work hard for their groceries. They worked hard for a paycheck and used it to buy food. Other workers are the ones who created that food and provided it to the grocery stores for our convenience and accessibility.

Imagine if those workers just decided they didn't care about us anymore? You can't eat money.

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Useless partner.. what do I do at this point!🫩

So in my whole pregnancy my partner wasn’t supportive, useless and basically neglected me. It’s got WORSE post partum.. how is this possible?? He helped the first week or so but ever since He hasn’t looked after me at all, left me to do everything as per like all the house work, nappy changes bottles I have to wake him up to help and then he falls back to sleep snd ignores me. When he does do something it takes hours for one little task,
all he tells me is how tired he is

I had stitches down there so I can’t lift anything for 6 weeks either, the house is becoming messy because he won’t help run the hoover over aswell or move heavy things etc Everything’s “I’ll do it in a minute “ I’m being called everything under the sun when I call him out on his behavior and then he just constantly walks out because he can’t handle it.. even in general he’s in the toliet for over half an hour or he’s outside vaping. I can’t back being with an immature guy anymore.. I’ve spoken to him a million times nothing changes, I also have all the financial responsibility as he has no money atm cos he was off work on paternity, I’m so sick of arguing I have tried to end the relationship every single day and it’s like he won’t let me!! I feel like a single mum
What do I do! Thoughts?

Would you find that weird?

So I was telling my older sister that my friend is talking to my husbands brother and my sister was like “oh yeah they both look alike and they’re both good looking ”.

Meaning my husband and his brother are both attractive. Why did she need to mention my husband?

Snacks

What can I give my 3 year old for snacks other than fruit? At the moment it’s fruit + baby bells but I need new ideas. Preferably things healthy

First birthday

Hi all, I've started shopping around for some bits for my little boys first birthday. Would just love to hear if there any toys your little one absolutely loves that would be worth looking at?

Also anyone that bought any soft play blocks for climbing etc would you say they're worth it?

For context he is in a rush to do everything, only 8 months and already crawling/pulling up to stand/trying to climb on everything, so definitely a very active little man!

Thanks 💗

Baby daddy problems. (I need help.)

My daughter, Anita. Her biological father has never been in the picture, from when I was 3 months pregnant, until thanksgiving in 2024. When he came back, on Christmas to see her for the first time, ever since that specific Christmas, he claims I haven't taught him anything, (my daughter had a G-Tube, from feeding slower than other babies. And was in the NICU for 74 days, I brought her home on Halloween of 2024.) when I taught him, diapers, food, her tube, (how to clean and change it) and even how to do her bottle correctly. He however refused to do the tube, bathe her, feed her, and even change her unless I was begging for it. (He only changes peed diapers that ik of rn.) Since January of 2025, him and I have been on and off the entire year, he really left near Christmas. He came back, and again would shame me for my mental health, even though he's in and out of her life, and even when we were together, it was me doing everything and anything for my child, (he wasn't in the delivery room either, he was in another state) my daughter was also born at 33 weeks, via C-section for my water breaking earlier than expected. We had a really massive talk, and I had explained, how it was always me, and she barely knows him, as he wouldn't do anything for her, and only really saw her when we were dating, and together, I also mentioned, everything I do for Anita, how he hasn't bothered checking in, and chooses another baby his gf had rather than his own, his response was "I didn't want to be a dad" and "it's better if she doesn't know me as her dad" (I do have the ss Incase he wants this to go to court) the thing is. He isn't on the birth certificate. Or even someone to call Incase of an emergency. I am playing both parents for her. He texted me the other night, saying he wanted to see her, or he'd take me to court. I decided this last chance, I've set boundaries for him and his gf (who's moving in) I have set I know the plans 24/7 if he cancels, and how I do NOT want his gf immediately in the picture, and I want him to have time to Anita for himself (12 days total) before they meet each other, (mind you, he rather drive 4 hours for his gf and her child for months, rather than his daughter who lives 15 minutes away from him. I guess I'm asking if I'm crazy for setting so many boundaries for her biological father, and his gf and her child, for my daughter's health, well being, and the way to feel loved equally? (His gf has threatened me before, and he has also done the same with calling CPS. Which idk why he would, other than the fact I have diabetes, and a heart condition that makes it difficult for me to work, and I stay at home,) (I also do get money for the government, which I've divided between my daughter and I, she gets spoiled like crazy, while I also get food, water, and gifts for her and dinner at restaurants.) Am I being a helicopter mom? A bad mom? Or a bad person in any type of way for what I have set (I didn't name all of them btw.) I have ss, and both his and his gfs chats saved, (his gf has also stalked my Instagram account, and put my bio into her story thinking it was about her which I'm sure is what started all of this, the bio wasn't about her, and was about my ex friend who cheated on her fiance.)

I'm currently debating on texting my daughter's father, and telling him I do NOT want him in Anitas life as this would be the 5th-6th chance I have given him, to no changes, no gifts, and him not feeding her by feeding himself, plus his family doesn't like me, call me names, and all of this, (plus him choosing another girl with a kid, who's 4 hours away, instead of seeing Anita who's 15 minutes away, asking questions, and rejects any call I have asked for him to make, so she can hear his voice. (This has been going on since before I was pregnant, since November of 2023.)

New SAHM having issues relating

I’m having the best time the 1st year of motherhood and I cannot relate to 95% of other moms to the point it’s making it hard for me to make new mom friends. I used to work 60-80 hours in corporate finance so this is the lowest stress I’ve had in years. I basically spend my days outside exercising with my baby and doing a ton of stuff like farmers markets, swim lessons, playgrounds, street festivals, museums, restaurants, baseball games. We are very clean and organized but we live in an apartment so it only takes me about an hour a day and a 2 hour deep clean every Sunday to keep our home together. I’ve worked hard exercising the last few years to lose about 40lbs so I also feel great physically. Many moms I meet instantly ask me if I’m also “lonely at home” or how I feel about new body and I feel like no matter what I say, it makes me sound like an asshole. I really want to encourage them to come outside with me but they immediately say it’s too hard. I think I just need to work harder to find some moms who are doing the same things I am, but I also feel guilt essentially not wanting to be friends with nice people who are having a hard time adjusting. I want to make some new mom friends because I’m also not relating to old my friends because most of them don’t have kids. Is anyone else having this problem?