New SAHM having issues relating

I understand where you are coming from, if you need me text me, and I will be glad to be there for you 🫶🏻

I completely relate. Right down to being a retired corporate accountant.
I feel like such a “pick me” when I start getting asked about motherhood and its hardships. 😅 don’t get me wrong, they exist.

Most people struggle with this major life change, you’re the rare one who isn’t whatsoever I guess. It sounds like you’re a type A person who doesn’t mind doing life solo without adult interaction. That’s not the majority of people. Also, many women are dealing with PPD and PPA. Your body didn’t change at all? I mean, you lost 40lbs so it sounds like your body did change. You definitely have something to add to that conversation. “I gained some weight after pregnancy and had to work really hard to lose it. I wasn’t happy in my postpartum body initially.” This post honestly comes off as braggadocios and is off putting. I personally wouldn’t want a friend who thinks they are better than other moms, which is how this comes off. I suggest finding a mom who has similar interests and not picking her apart if she has a hard time. Comparison is the thief of joy, that phrase goes both ways. Best of luck to you.

Sounds like you had an easy bby with no PPD/PPA. Which is not as common these days. Some of us still struggle with all of it. My bby girl is almost a year and although easier to handle her…PPA/PPD comes in waves. But walking, famers markets, outdoor activity/events does help bunch! Especially now that baby girl doesnt mind them. PPA/PPD is something no woman asks for but sadly some will go through.You were blessed✨may you find the type of mom friends who fit your lifestyle !

I don’t think you should feel bad! When my first was little, I had the opposite problem. She had colic and screamed nonstop for about 6 months. I did not want to be about chill babies.

I made a really good friend because her baby was very hard too and we bonded over that!

I don’t think it’s terrible to want to have a friend who is having the same amount of joy that you are or to want to share hobbies and activities with them. it sounds like you’d rather have another upbeat person as company.
You shouldn’t feel guilty for enjoying your experience. And no one should make you feel like it’s wrong to enjoy yourself. It’s hard to want to befriend people you don’t have any thing in common with and it’s totally okay to just not. You don’t have to be besties with everyone and the fact that you at least try to extend an invitation to whatever you are doing is good enough. Just as it’s “too hard” for them to try to involve themselves in anything it seems it’s just too hard for you to be in the company of misery. Which is also totally acceptable.

Anyone who makes you feel like you have to explain yourself is not your people. I’ve used that in every aspect of my life moving forward. If any person is making you question your value or worth or experience that is working for you and and disrupting your peace in any way shape or form to rock the flow of your enjoyment with this experience, they are not for you. Nothing else you don’t need to explain anything to yourself. We are all too grown to be wasting each other’s time than that way. I hope you find your tribe that makes you smile and say thank you for hearing me and making me feel seen.