Moving to NJ - Schools

Hi All,

We're looking to move to NJ in the near future and would love to get any recommendations on areas to look at with great schools or any hacks on how to get an affordable home in a great school district. I don't drive (new yorker) but my hubby does, I'd ideally like to be able to walk/commute baby to school when she goes. I'm starting to feel very discouraged, budget is ideally below 700k, preferably 600k or less.

in our community

Teething!!

Is this normal? I’m a first time mum and panicking! More photos in comments

Do you actually work hard for what you have or does your job just pay you more money?

On the topic of families becoming unable to afford groceries, someone said that they don't care about anyone struggling or hungry because they simply worked hard for the food they have.

Unless that person has a job in agriculture or food production then they didn't actually work hard for their groceries. They worked hard for a paycheck and used it to buy food. Other workers are the ones who created that food and provided it to the grocery stores for our convenience and accessibility.

Imagine if those workers just decided they didn't care about us anymore? You can't eat money.

Today my kids locked my bedroom door and closed it and I haven’t been able to open it, I held my baby above me to check his mouth and he vomited directly into my face, also my kids dad skipped the call again

I didn’t mention that the kids dad was supposed to call or not but my oldest asked what day it was, I said Sunday and he knows that’s the call day. Shortly after he knew it was Sunday he came behind me and punched me in the back and I asked what was going on if h had any feelings he wanted to talk about or if something was bothering him. He said no. Then he threw something at my head. I’m tryin to provide him with some reassurance and support and special connection. We’re gunna bake banana bread later.

But today’s f-ing hard. Wanna scream into the void.

I need to vent

I’m happily married and my husband is an amazing dad but he works a lot, leaves as soon as we wake up and gets home after she’s in bed. His days off are Sunday & Monday, I work Monday so he has our daughter while I’m gone. This leaves only Sunday to do family stuff, go to church & have some alone time for myself. That being said, I don’t actually get my alone time but my husband does, he doesn’t understand that I’m needed 24/7 even in my sleep bc I’m exclusively breastfeeding. I need a few hours of autonomy where I can have me time that isn’t at night when my daughter goes to bed. Last night was Pascha so we were up late and my husband wanted to go to 11am vespers, it’s now almost 4pm and I feel guilty for asking him to come home but he gets to do whatever he wants… what about me??? When do I get to do what I want? When do I get to have hobbies?? I love my daughter and love being with her all day but I still want to not be needed for a few hours.

Hey I just need help with what I'm going to do with my boyfriend

he’s not showing me attention anymore. He said he’s busy. He’s just not putting an effort anymore and I don’t know what to do and I shouldn’t have the beg for his attention. What should I do?

Avoiding burn out

Hello! I’m a first time mum of a beautiful almost 2-month-old baby boy with no village, not even one helping hand! He is having one of those phases where he constantly wants to be held and cuddled. If he’s left on the crib on his own for a few minutes, he wakes up and cries. I want to hold and cuddle him as well but I have severe back pain from the C section, and I also had a bit of an accidental fall from the stairs on the 8th day after the C section which gave me a very bad ankle injury. I’m trying my best but recently I’ve been feeling completely burnt out. I can’t sleep, cook, eat properly, or even shower. Please tell me I’m not the only one going through this. And please tell me that it gets better. And any word of advice as to how I can deal with this phase is most welcome. I feel like I’m not good enough. I feel like a bad mum. 😔🙏