Postpartum rage

I need help. My daughter is almost 2 months and I'm currently I'm doing everything by myself cause my bf can't be in the shelter with me. The staff doesn't help at all. I am diagnosed with bipolar and multiple personality disorder. I'm currently struggling to keep my cool with my daughter. But it's hard. I honestly don't know what to. I love my daughter with all my heart but I'm scared of myself cause I don't have my bf here to help me with our daughter. I'm currently sitting in the corner crying

Plz help

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It's okay to cry and feel frustrated. If you're feeling angry or upset, set the baby down and walk away into another room where you won't hear them crying. They'll be okay crying by themselves for a short period of time, they won't be okay if you hurt or shake them out of frustration. Take some time in the other room to scream, cry, let it out. Then take deep breaths until you're calm and prepare yourself to go back into the other room. You're baby is likely still crying but they feel when you're calm and when you're upset. They'll be easier to calm when you're calm.

If you continue to struggle seek help. Call a hotline. Take the baby to the fire station or if you have a willing and responsible family member.

I've been having mild postpartum rage, I need to find a postpartum therapist. You should have insurance up to a year after having a baby. I dont have much help, but I would say look into help. You can take your daughter with and they can advise you better than anyone else. The best thing to do is step away and just breathe in the moment, your baby will be okay for a few minutes while you try to get in a better space. One thing I try to do is just think about something my son does that makes me laugh, or lately I might snap a lil then I just stop what im doing and play with him to hear his laugh. I'm so sorry you are going through this, you are not alone. You will be in my prayers🙏🏽🥰

You can also talk to your obgyn, if you feel safe with them, for recommendations🫶🏽

I have borderline personality disorder, anger issues, depression all before I had a kid then with postpartum rage on top of it. I fully understand. If you need a minute away from the baby then do it. My pediatrician told me if she gets too overwhelming to put her in a safe place and leave the room for 15-20 minutes to let yourself calm down. Go scream, cry, be upset maybe go smoke or just any activity you prefer that’ll calm you down

Write out your feelings, express your emotions as you write.

Always remember it's okay to take a few minutes each time throughout the day to sit and chill. Your mind needs a break too. ☺️

Moments when you feel you're struggling to keep your cool, that's your sign to take a break and then come back to baby.

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My son was a dream from 2 months old. My daughter is just a completely different child! I can't I just can't do it.

It's fine for her Dad to fuck off downstairs to the couch while I'm just in bed trying to do anything I can to settle her which nothing works!! I don't wanna put her in bed with me because I don't want to get her into the habit of co sleeping, a bottle used to settle her and now it doesn't. Shushing doesn't work, patting her doesn't work.

She's 19 months

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