ARFID: what do you say when you don’t want to eat something being offered to you?

So I see posts on here sometimes about how it’s rude to deny food or ask for something different and if you get hungry enough you’ll eat etc. and obviously I know they’re speaking in a more general sense but I’m wondering if you have ARFID and you don’t eat a food being offered to you do you admit that or just say you’re full (assuming you know this person but not well enough that they already know about your aversions etc.) do you bring your own food in? Sometimes I will leave something I can eat or snack on in the car so I can eat on the way home. I just always say I’m not hungry but people catch on eventually .. I’m rambling now lol

So non arfid people: what do you want people to say/ do in this kind of scenario?

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Be honest and open about having arfid, bring your own, and let the host know your safe foods if they’re something they could easily accommodate

I know it’s not the same, but I have anxiety around getting food poisoning so there’s some places/people’s houses that I just can’t eat at. I usually say that I’m bringing x, y, z foods (for everyone) and then I’ll just eat what I bring. If anyone notices, they haven’t said anything. That said, honesty is probably the best policy, especially when you have a diagnosed condition.

I am just honest about having Arfid. I’m more than willing to taste almost anything, even when I know I won’t eat a lot of it! I just explain before I get any food on a plate that “it’s my silly brain, it’s not any offense to anybody” if I don’t take a piece of everything offered or clear my plate. 🤷‍♀️

I’ve had best friends moms who have happily made me grilled cheeses or buttered noodles because they didn’t want me to go hungry or waste time or money going to get my own food & im always forever grateful & appreciative of that, but I don’t expect anybody to do such a thing for me, ordering a lot of Togo foods or very specific cravings from the grocery store is unfortunately just a built in disability tax on my budget sheet lol

**nobody has ever made me feel worse for having struggles with food than my own actual parents before they acknowledged girls could be autistic, so I don’t know if people receive it well it feels like it goes over well though on my side LOL*

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