Has anyone else found they no longer feel *in love* with their partner?
Myself and my fiancé have been together for 10 years this year. We have a 2yo together and are due to get married next year. I do still love him and I couldn't imagine my life without him, but I just don't particularly feel *in love* with him anymore. I can't really describe it but I almost feel numb. Ever since we got engaged and had our child I feel like I've not been particularly happy, but not unhappy either. I don't really get excited for our plans anymore. I don't really feel much emotion when we argue or equally when we kiss/cuddle/are intimate. I wondered whether I could be suffering some form of post partum depression or maybe our spark has just died. I also have absolutely no libido which doesn't help. I have no desire to be touched or to have sex or for any intimacy. I can happily go long periods of time without being hugged/kissed/having sex or showing any form of affection.. I think this is an issue in itself. But definitely doesn't help the relationship. Im feeling worried about it the more our wedding is approaching wondering whether I can fix how I feel or whether it could just continue. I want to feel in love again, I don't know where it went wrong or what changed? It's like a switch has just flipped in my brain. Am I just too touched out from becoming a mum? I feel immensely guilty every day because all I ever wanted was us to buy a house, get married, have children, etc. Now I've got it all and something just isn't sitting right.. Ughh
Has anyone else experienced this??? Help😕
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This happened to me when my partner and I had a son. He was 2yr old at the time. I was in a bad place mentally, really lonely, and trying to find purpose in my life. It got better once I reached out to ppl and started new hobbies. We also moved.
It sounds a lot like depression. A common misconception about depression is that you don't always feel sad or depressed often it is more a numbness to all emotions.
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