Advice?
Recently someone I considered a close friend of mine blocked me. Our friendship for the last couple years has been rocky but at one point for a very long time she was my best friend. During my pregnancy she re entered my life and I welcomed her with open arms because regardless of the things that had happened and the way things made me feel, I still hold her very close to my heart. Since I had my baby we had constantly been making plans for her to come see her for the first time, but they always fell through due to me and my partner just being too exhausted, my communication lacked I will take full accountability many times I could’ve just said, the last thing I’ll do is make excuses for myself, but being a first time mum is hard and very mentally challenging, most things generally do just slip my mind. But when the plan fell through last she blocked me, which is within her right I suppose, I could have communicated better. Post partum is giving me a tough time and I think it stings more because I don’t have very many friends, I never wished for this to happen, I said countless times I wanted nothing more for her to meet my baby and I meant it, when things like this happen to me I feel very hard, and pp is mentally challenging enough, I guess I just want to know if there’s anyway I can think better about this, I’ve apologised but I don’t think she’s interested in hearing me out and that’s fine. I just don’t want to feel sad, I wish I could just forget.
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I understand this situation from both ends your adjusting to just now becoming a mom and she can’t relate to that sometimes people are only meant to be in some chapters of your life but not be completely in the whole story if that makes sense . Allow your self to feel the emotions and just let go mama .
Honestly, you’ve already done your part by apologizing and taking accountability. Being a first-time mum is A LOT, and the right people will understand that. If she chose to block you instead of communicating, that’s on her, not you. Give yourself some grace ❤️ focus on your baby and your healing. The people meant for you won’t make you feel like this
I have been on the other end. I had a bestfriend for years and while the love of being friends was always there, we just were in different spots. I just cold turkey blocked her because our relationship didn't make me feel good. She was also going through a pregnancy. As someone who did the blocking I never stopped loving or thinking about her. I still do years later but I also remember I did it to protect my peace. As being the pregnant person now I see it may feel isolating losing people at this point. I actually had my other bestfriend of longer stop talking to me after i got pregnant. It hurts to let someone go and be let go but im all for protecting our peace no matter what someone is going through.
Aww I get you completely, you have such a good heart for even thinking that way. But honestly, you deserve people who show up for you too, especially during a time like this. You’re doing your best and that’s enough, just focus on you and your baby, everything else will fall into place.
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