Mom's going through divorce/separation/ breakups

Can you trust / find love again?

One of my biggest dreams in life is to find love, and get married and live happily ever after. I know that sounds cliche and corny, but I am a proper romantic and always have been.
My husband has decided he wants a divorce out of nowhere, and right now I don’t feel like I can trust anyone, or love anyone ever. It’s becoming more and more apparent that he never actually made me feel loved, honestly I’m not sure he ever actually loved me. I’ve tried for reconciliation and couples counselling but he is not having any of it.
But now I don’t know what to do.
I want to be able to feel loved at some point in my life. The idea of never feeling that breaks my heart. But I don’t know if I will ever be able to trust someone again. I don’t how to feel about it all.
Did any of you manage to trust again? Or love again? How long did it take you to get there?

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I feel this post. My good friend split with her ex when her daughter was an infant. Her daughter is around 9 now and she is in a really good and healthy long-term relationship. It takes a lot of growth and internal strength. You have to be complete and whole and love yourself, trust yourself and trust your judgement. You have to recognize your worth and walk away from every person who doesn’t treat you the way you need to be treated, doesn’t recognize your value. It will take time and I know I’m not there yet. Right now I’m trying to keep the perspective that if a relationship doesn’t work and doesn’t fit, I have to be okay being alone with myself. If I can’t accept that, then I’m at risk of choosing something thinking it’s better than nothing, and that’s not the path to happiness.

Dm me if you want to talk. I’m a year and a half out from my separation event that led to divorce, and I have an almost-3-year-old.

Hugs and good luck. 🫂

Im like you and asking the same question. However , I would like to build myself up and have strength and be happy with me. Also, totally agree with Ambers message 🫶

💔 I feel you. 💔

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