Am I wrong to feel this way …

I’ve always wanted 3 children, but happy if I only had 2 - I really want my child to atleast have one sibling …

My son is 3 and my husband is 38…
I’ve asked his thoughts on having another and he says as always my priorities aren’t straight, he’s referring to finances, but not that we are struggling it is more he’s too use to how much we earned when it was JUST us two .. of course finances change with a child…

But he’s adament he doesn’t want anymore children…I can’t help feel this is a dealbreaker for me, I can’t nudge this unhappiness feeling…am I stupid to feel this way?

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I don’t think so. I’d be upset too/feel the same way. Did you guys talk about how many kids you both wanted before having your son? Was he always on board with a second. My husband turns 38 next month and we’ve been trying for our second.

We’ve talked about finances over here and I don’t think a second kid cost too much in the beginning as you have everything left from the first kid. It would just be when they get into daycare or organized sports or travelling as a family (or college in 18 years haha).

We both had said before about wanting atleast 3 max .. but of course who knew kids could be exhausting and challenging 😭 so he changed completely and is happy with one - I really want my son to have a sibling

I hope/pray your blessed with another honestly!
And exactly my argument was we practically have everything, I intend to breast feed again so no formula money & anything we don’t have would probably be brought via baby shower, I always say the future can always change so we don’t know, the struggles we have now may be different in years to come, but he’s just not on board 😔

That’s difficult and I’m sorry. I hope you can have a few more conversations and that he might be open to it again. Is there a way you can find a compromise? Like maybe getting a side hustle to save money to off set the expenses?

I know I don’t feel complete without another and I don’t think I could stop at one. It’s like an entire body burning sensation I have to have more children (I actually fear I will always want more kids).

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