Husband has bad higene

Do any of yall struggle with your husbands higene ?! Anytime I try to talk to him about it , it turns into a fight but i am so disgusted . He absolutely refuses to brush his teeth and the only way I ever get him to do it is when my toddler tells him to brush his teeth with her . And he is a mechanic and gets covered in grease everyday and doesnt want to take a shower when he gets home . He always says he is to tired and he will do it later . Sometimes its 2 -3 days without showering and every surface in the home ends up with grease smears and the pillows / blankets are all stained and nasty . Intimacy has come to a complete stop and i dread even going to bed because it grosses me out . He is an amazing husband and father and works so hard for me to be a stay at home mom but I seriously dont know what to do about this . I've tried talking and bringing it up nonchalantly but he immediately gets defensive which just pisses me off and turns into an argument . Hes never been the best at keeping up with himself but the past year has just gotten so bad and I dread even kissing him 😭

in our community

Would this pee you off???

I was shopping with my 7 month old and this girl who was about 4 years old came up to me and started asking me questions about my baby. The girl then started touching my baby's face and her legs before I had to politely tell her to stop. Meanwhile the girl's mum is just standing there next to her the whole time and doesn't bother saying anything to her and just lets her do it.

Children that age don't always understand boundaries but the fact that mum let her randomly touch my child really peed me off. I was really cross at the mum. Is it just me or should the mum have said something?

Daycare Owner Kissed My Toddler on the Cheek

I was so in shock when it happened that I froze and didn't say anything. On the way home, I thought in our culture, we're family oriented and she seemed like she wanted it to be known we're family but we can do that without you putting your lips on my child, no??? But I think if I speak up, it can create ill feelings and I'll no longer trust my child being there all because she didn't like that I said something (something similar happened with my MIL after speaking up about her kissing my baby on the lips) - especially after I didn't say anything about it before. Ugh what to do..... I really need the break but this is why I didn't want to take the childcare route to begin with.

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Is it bad that I prefer when my partner is at work? Everything just seems to run so much smoother and seems much easier

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Does anyone else get upset when your spouse spanks y’all kids?

Nursery

Hi I take my 2yo to nursery two days a week
I work afternoons, it’s doesn’t fit in with her nursery
Is it bad me sending her when I’m not at work I feel guilty as I should be with her but need the break
Someone said just send her the one day
What are your thoughts?

Nothings changed

My husband’s life has not changed one bit since having a baby meanwhile my whole life has changed. He comes and goes as he pleases, goes out with friends, showers when he wants, eats when he wants, goes to the bathroom when he wants. He owns a business so he’ll work and then just do as he pleases with zero consideration of the fact Ive been home alone with a baby all day. One time I up and left to try and teach him a lesson. I was gone for one hour and sat in a parking lot drinking coffee. He called me 3 times and texted me 2 times within that hour.. yet he didn’t learn his lesson. What else can I do?