Anyone relate?

I feel awful all the time I can’t switch off at all since having my baby I feel like I have to be running 24/7 my partner helps but minimally he will sit and play cod while I’m doing all the washing after doing all the night feeds, says I should nap but then says he’s going for a quick shower and spends hours upstairs getting ready so I can’t sleep.. he was in and out during my pregnancy and he came back 4 days before I gave birth I feel like he’s just wanting to be on the birth certificate I’m worried about everything and I can’t rest, there’s been times I’ve missed feeds (she’s slept through) but she’s gone 5 hours without feeding at 12 days old because I’m so exhausted I’m not waking up to my alarm and will wake up to her crying hours after she should’ve been fed, I don’t want to be a bad mum but I don’t understand how people do it I can’t remember anything my head is like mash I can’t rest or sit down I’m worried my stitches aren’t healing because I’m doing so much they still hurt now the whole area feels really heavy I just want to cry all the time.

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Sounds like maybe a conversation with your partner is needed, he needs to know what you expect of him and if he isnt going to play his part then whats the point on him being there. you are doing so well but you need to be supported just as much your baby. X

I mean the word ‘partner’ can be used loosely here 🙄 some men I don’t think or realise until it’s spelled out to them but you shouldn’t have to and I’m sorry it’s so difficult at the moment.

Sometimes what you need is a good stretch of sleep and a reset and things look a bit clearer. Does he know how to feed the baby at all? All babies are different but as long as she’s putting on weight I don’t think going 5 hours is too bad as long as she’s happy and comfortable. Babies cry for everything and I’m sure you haven’t left her crying for hours so she will let you know when she wants something ❤️ as some men struggle because they’re SO tired (trust me, it’s mine, it’s others, it’s far too many men!) would he be open to taking one feed a day where you know that’s going to be covered, say it’s the morning one, where you can shower, organise what YOU and baby need and eat something, relax, sleep etc. Obviously adding more to this would be beneficial but if it’s the same time every day

Decent human beings - then it’s ok them not me! You do you and you deserve rest time, don’t waste it stressing over him. If he couldn’t support you during pregnancy and now in what is your most vulnerable and difficult time postpartum, then he has wasted this opportunity twice over. Once you regain your strength and the baby WILL get a routine, you’ll find and realise how strong you are and what you are achieving is incredible.

Oh and I would have chucked that games console out the window - you’re a stronger woman than me 😆

Feel free to message when it’s hard, or keep posting. Don’t do this alone, we are all flailing about together 😂 xxx

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My ex husband cheated badly. He then went on to mentally and financially abuse me during our divorce when I got the guts to leave.

I later found out he’d started sleeping with one of my best friends. Why she went there is still a mystery to anybody because she knew how nasty he’d been to me. She must have lost her mind.

Anyway it’s been five years. I heard down the grape vine that they’ve had a rocky relationship but they did have a baby together. They also just got married too.

Anyway guess what. He’s done exactly the same to her as why he did to me.

Part of me hates the thought of this happening to any woman. Especially when kids are involved but the level of hurt the pair of them have inflicted onto me also makes me feel slightly glad! Karma caught up with her. I’m sad he’s not changed his ways, he’s a truly nasty person.

But I feel so conflicted about being secretly sorta happy this has happened. I could have predicted their ways would come back to bite them. Also I hate woman who do this to other woman. Me and my friend had been best friends since we’re 14!

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Am I a terrible mom?

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About a week ago my partner lost his night retainer. He had his Invisalign about 4 years ago.

He's spent the first 3 days looking everywhere turning the house upside down and even not sleeping. He's been looking everywhere and not sleeping well at all

He got up at 4am and said I need to find them and I said babe come back to bed and he said leave me alone.

He starts work at 8:30, works from home. It was half 7 and he had our 7 week old and I said I got to her our 3 week old ready for nursery. He only started yesterday.

He was going on about his retainer and I said I'm sorry babe but it must not be here (we think our toddler must of thrown it) he started shouting at me calling .e negative and horrible and went mad. I now have the baby and my son is late for nursery.

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