Parents of multiples:why does it feel like im falling so far behind with my second..? I feel like im failing himn😭

My daughter is 3 and my son is almost 8 months. With my daughter I was on top of everything, she hit her milestones, sometimes early. But with my son I feel like im falling behind... I didn't regularly start giving him purees until 7m because It didn't click how much time had passed.. Like I blinked and I missed my que. Hes also not sitting up by himself yet and the doctor said she isn't super concerned but if he can't by his 9m check up then hell need to do physical therapy... I just feel like time is moving incredibly fast and I can't keep up, I'm falling behind..

in our community

Eating dinner together..

I think my 2 year old would really benefit from eating with us at the table. I know it’s not required for all kiddos but I think it would help.

I just can’t work out how to get dinner on for 5/530 for everyone.

He largely eats toddler type dinners that I can often throw together quickly. I just can’t work out how to make adult / toddler dinner ready for 5/530 when I’m technically working from home till 5.

I do have some flexibility to chuck things together while I’m at home and of course could meal prep but I’m quite overwhelmed.

Nursery

How far in advance to look at nurseries?

Support with baby

I'm curious to know, how does your significant other support with the baby and round the home, with older children etc? I'm trying to not have super high expectations from my husband, but there are times he really seems to have no clue!

Mum guilt… Nurseries

Hey mammas!
So I’ll try keep this short so I’m going back to work in a few months my daughter will be 15 months old. I’m only going back part time and I’ll be sending my daughter to nursery 3 days per week. But I see a lot of mums and videos on tik tok saying “id never send my child to nursery, I worked in a nursery they are horrible I’d never do it” I didn’t want to send my daughter to nursery anyway when she’s still so young because I’m scared that she’ll feel sad and look for me and I’m not there😞.
I wish I didn’t have to send her but I genuinely can’t afford to live unless I’m working at least part time. Im a solo mum so dad/partner is not in the picture so it’s all on me.
I know there’s been some stories in the media about nursery workers and abuse but I thought they are rare cases.
I’m almost crying writing this thinking that she won’t be okay. I’m not afraid of the worst case situation but more afraid of her missing me… I don’t know. I don’t know why everyone’s saying they’re never putting their child in nursery.
I thought nursery would be good for her to make friends, to have fun with messy activities and paint ect.
Just wondering what everyone’s else’s thoughts are on this

Dramaa

Well my so called baby Daddy been acting weird and today he told me this morning at 9:00 something to stop being lazy in the more I usually there's no problem and today there was.. and I told him in front of his mom that since you told me to stop being lazy why don't you get a job and he tells me in front his mom you don't gotta be here witch more less kicking me out... How am I supposed to get all my stuff out here😭💔

Wake windows

What are we doing to keep babies entertained during their wakeful time?? I feel bad because I don’t know what to do to entertain him the best I can, and he sleeps so more than a typical 1 month old I’m wondering if it’s not out of boredom- am I normal for just watching my show while I talk to him and play or should I be doing more?