Managers asking me if I am a mom when I go to interviews. Is it just me that this happens to?

I also want to point out that I rarely hear about them asking a MAN this question. Only women.

These questions may violate your civil rights because they aren’t relevant to the job performance. They can only ask after you’re hired. If you’re not able to schedule because of your kids you could just say you have prior commitments.

As someone who’s a manager and does ask this question at interviews for managerial job roles.

It’s not to discriminate or take away any of your rights.

It’s 1 to see if you would be entitled to parental leave of absence if your child was to ever get sick - the business would need a back up plan to ensure you could be with your child.

2 if you would be available for overtime if needed.

3 how to best support you as an employee at the work place whenever an emergency was to arise, do I have a next of kin to inform , do I have children I need to ensure are looked after in the event of an emergency at the work place etc.

Whilst your mother had 4 children , she is not working in the modern day where employees stress levels , mental health and work home balance has to be fsctured in and help manage if need be..

Are you in the U.K.? If so, these are “potentially” discriminatory questions based on the Equality Act (under the basis of sex - would they ask male candidates the same questions for example?).

Major red flag 🚩 and many women can also demonstrate internalised misogyny too, sadly 😭

Ask back “how would being a parent affect a persons ability to do the role?”!